Scott33 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 (edited) My ex and I was together for 6 years. She 23 and I'm 26. She left me due to my drinking. When she left I did everything to try and get her back. I just decided to let go and go on NC. We broke up about 7 months ago. 2 months after we split up she started dating a guy who was 40. I guess they split up like a week ago because he would drink every day and beat her. She been coming over and hanging out with me just about everyday since they split up about a week ago. She told me that she regrets leaving me. She also said she wants to be friends and doesn't know if she would want to be back together but then she whatever happens, happens. She always crying about her problems to me and how I'm doing good without her. Why does she want to be friends with me but doesn't know if she wants to get back together. Should I remain friends with her and see if it leads to getting back together. Also I don't ever text her, she always text me first and wanting to come over. I just don't get why she wants to be friends. Edited October 17, 2016 by Scott33
Marc878 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Like a child who doesn't want a toy until someone else notices it. You're to young to settle at this time. I'd move on. Friends with an ex just hinders that. Make sure you cut out the drinking. Someone worthy will do the same if you keep that up.
smackie9 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Because she is sad and lonely, maybe a little scared.....you are all she has ever known and depended on for 6 years....she is having trouble adjusting to being on her own. She never had the opportunity to be independent, especially during her years of development. In a way she is still like a child psychologically. That would explain her latching onto this daddy figure. Right now she is very vulnerable....maybe give her some support, but also encourage her to fly free.....learn about life, and grow up.
smackie9 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Like a child who doesn't want a toy until someone else notices it. You're to young to settle at this time. I'd move on. Friends with an ex just hinders that. Make sure you cut out the drinking. Someone worthy will do the same if you keep that up. I agree about the drinking.....if you want life to treat you well, you need to quit it.
Redhead14 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Do not entertain a co-dependent relationship . . . get focused on dealing with and healing yourself.
Author Scott33 Posted October 17, 2016 Author Posted October 17, 2016 I don't really drink to much anymore. I will only drink like every other week just to go out and meet new people. I will only have a couple beers. I do give her support when she comes over crying. She wanted to hangout today but I told her I was busy, which I wasn't. I kinda do want to move on but then again I kinda want to try again with her just because she done a lot for me. Liked help me get through college and stuff. Do you think she is just using me for emotional support and because she sad and lonely. Her family doesn't even really talk to her 1
Redhead14 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 I don't really drink to much anymore. I will only drink like every other week just to go out and meet new people. I will only have a couple beers. I do give her support when she comes over crying. She wanted to hangout today but I told her I was busy, which I wasn't. I kinda do want to move on but then again I kinda want to try again with her just because she done a lot for me. Liked help me get through college and stuff. Do you think she is just using me for emotional support and because she sad and lonely. Her family doesn't even really talk to her ]I don't really drink to much anymore -- Said every alcoholic who went a little while without drinking or "cutting down" . . . and It's not about how much you drink but why you drink. You can be her emotional tampon if you want to . . . 1
smackie9 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 I kinda want to try again with her" just because she done a lot for me". Liked help me get through college and stuff. Does this not sound......selfish? Maybe it's time to pay it forward and help her out........ 1
Author Scott33 Posted October 17, 2016 Author Posted October 17, 2016 (edited) I am helping her out. Since this past week whenever she wanted to hangout and talk I always did expect for today. I mean I done a lot for her in the pass too. Also when I said she helped me get through college I didn't mean with money. She would just help me with my homework or projects if I need it. Edited October 17, 2016 by Scott33
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