Should I give him another chance?

[ItsAllConfusing]

Update.

 

I met a guy online. We met once in person and we were intimate on our first date. ( I know see previous posts).

 

So he texts me on Friday asking if I was free to which I responded that I wasn't and that he needs to set things up with me in advance. So here comes Tuesday and surprisingly I get a text from him asking about the following Friday evening I say ok and I ask him what time and where should I meet him. I'm so excited . He finally seems to be considerate of my schedule. I get no response about the meeting place and time. Come Thursday i go out after staying late at work to buy an outfit for Friday. It's a task! I go to about 4 different stores before I find a decent outfit. I get ready to check out and I get a text from him at 8:00 saying "sorry I can't make it,".

 

That's it. Five measly little words. I was so angry, tired and fed up (see previous posts) that I burst into tears and put the clothes back. I felt terrible. My eyes were watering like crazy and my head was hurting. I sent a text back telling him how I had to take time out for this and I told him to delete my number.

 

Surprisingly he texts me back right away apologizing and explaining why he couldn't meet he said he'd been really busy and had a last minute group meeting. He's a grad student and he teaches. I didn't respond immediately so he sends me a sad face emoji. I explain how I was stressed and didn't mean to overreact. He sends me a kiss. I do the same. I block his number.

 

I spend my weekend sleeping and eating junk and making my own self feel good and vowing to let this guy go.

 

Sunday comes and surprisingly I get another text asking if I was free. I blocked him but his text still showed up. I said I wasn't and I let him know when I'd be free and he said he'd take note of it and said thank u to me.

 

He has asked me in total about 5 times not planned, spontaneous if I could meet and I've declined all of them. I've let him know about 3 of those times how we have to make plans to go out that it can't be random.

 

I'm a mom to 1 and I work full time and I still manage to return texts in a prompt manner. I can't understand why he takes 2 to 4 days to respond and why he can't make plans. He's young in his late 20s. I'm 29. II live by a schedule and I don't think it's too much to ask him to ask me out in advance. I've only met him in person once, we talked online for two weeks before meeting and even then his texts were slightly delayed . I can't tell if he likes me, wants to use me or is just genuinely busy.

 

Is it too much to ask to make plans in advance?

Did I overreact?

What to do?

Edited October 17, 2016 by ItsAllConfusing

[MsJayne]

When a man is really into a woman, he texts straight back. The only thing stopping this guy from replying to you is that he can't see his 'phone screen because he has his head up his own ass.

[JewelD]

You did overreact a bit about the cancellation. Why did you go shopping for an outfit when he had not even confirmed a meeting time/place? In that case, you took it upon yourself to prepare for a date he had not confirmed. I wouldn't have even gotten excited about it until I had a time/place.

 

Then you block him over it because you want to let him go but as soon as you get a text, bloop! You're playing right into his hand yet again, so what was the point in blocking him?

 

He obviously doesn't care very much about how you want to be treated. A guy who likes you will listen to what you say, how you react and do his best not to repeat behavior that you don't like.

 

I think he's shown you more than once that he's just not that into you. The behavior you are seeing from him is exactly who he is. If you don't like it, then end it. You already tried talking to him, you can't force him to change if he doesn't want to.

[hippychick3]

You keep posting about this guy, and many of us have told you that he is just not interested enough. A guy who is truly interested will want to see you A LOT and will not cancel on you.

 

You really need to forget this dude and move on.

[smackie9]

I'm not sure why you are taking this so hard. It's obvious he's isn't compatible with you. His time available is spontaneous, due to his unpredictable schedule.....how can this work for you being a single mom workin full time? It can't. Stop fighting this....he isn't the one for you.

why you are so invested in someone you only gone out on one date with....?

[Toodaloo]

Oh no.

 

You let this one drop... You do not bother responding or talking to him any more.

 

Yes you over reacted because lets face facts. THe guy is a flake and not interested in you other than for entertainment (sex if he can) and only when he has nothing better to do.

[ItsAllConfusing]

You keep posting about this guy, and many of us have told you that he is just not interested enough. A guy who is truly interested will want to see you A LOT and will not cancel on you.

 

You really need to forget this dude and move on.

 

Ok ok you're all right. I don't know why I can't take the hint. It's my stupid nature that makes it hard to ignore people and makes me keep looking deep into things that aren't there. I'm going to take all of your advice and apply it. Thank you.

[ItsAllConfusing]

Oh no.

 

You let this one drop... You do not bother responding or talking to him any more.

 

Yes you over reacted because lets face facts. THe guy is a flake and not interested in you other than for entertainment (sex if he can) and only when he has nothing better to do.

 

You're right and I thought I could be the woman who could be unbothered and hang in there for sex but I can't. It's a terrible place to be wrapped around a Guy's finger who could care less about you and yes I feel like a fool. I won't respond to his texts from now on. It'll be hard but I can't continue this. Thank you.