kinug Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 I’m so confused, need some feedback! I’ve been talking to a guy, “Dave,” from the dating app, Happn for about a month now. We’ve had great chemistry from the start and texted a lot. We finally met for the first time last weekend. Things were a little awkward because we were both nervous, but we had coffee and walked around together for about two hours. He later texted me to say he enjoyed meeting me and would like to meet again. Throughout the rest of the week we texted back/forth as before and we made plans to meet again today. We talked last night about where we should meet since it will be raining so we were looking for indoor activities. I texted him this morning to check in and this is what I got! Dave: Hi, sorry to mess you around. I am really attracted to you but I have been thinking what else I want from a relationship right now. I don’t think I am quite ready for the dating thing. I am really sorry this comes out of the blue but just discussing yesterday made me really think. Me: Huh? What did we discuss yesterday? Dave: As in discussing where to go on a date Me: And that scared you? Dave: Realized that not quite ready for that investment of getting to know someone yet. Thought I was. I am really sorry for messing you around-it was not my intention. Me: Hmm, I thought we were just going to hang out, joke, laugh, whatever. I wasn’t thinking about investing on either end… Dave: I know, but it gave me pause and thought it best to be honest now than flake out later-I had great fun with you, once again sorry. Me: Well, I don’t think you were messing around, had no expectations at this point as I’ve been dating other men at the same time as you. (wouldn’t be fair to have expectations after one date!) Don’t quite understand what you’re saying, seems you’re reading into it more than me…But I’ll still respect that. Dave: Thanks, I am not a multiple dating person, tried without success, so think I make commitment decisions early. You are a fun and genuine person, I wish you the best. What happened in the 16 hours between yesterday and this morning that made him do a 180 on me? Did he meet or get with someone else? I realize he may have been talking to other people from the app, but then why did he make plans with me for today and talking about looking forward to seeing me? Should I/Can I say anything to change the situation? Any advice is appreciated....
JewelD Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 No. I think you said more than enough to him at this point. Who knows what happened really besides him? Maybe he wasn't ready to date, maybe he just wasn't feeling it with you, could be lots of different things. I wouldn't take it personally nor would I try to contact him again. Just move on to the next guy.
Versacehottie Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Sounds like he was being relatively honest. I wouldn't take it personally. And for what it's worth, i think you responded perfectly. It could be several things. I would just take it at face value that he's not ready to date or invest in someone. Good luck with next one.
hippychick3 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 There's nothing more you should say. Let it be. It happens. Just brush it off and move on. The right guy for you would not have changed his mind.
smackie9 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Don't take it personally......I have a feeling his ex came around and hoovered him back in.
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