Larryville Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 Phin you nailed it! You give the number when I ask or I move on because you aren't interested. Every woman I know online dating knows to give their number out to show the guy they are interested. Any woman that wants to meet without exchanging numbers I learned the hard way is not really interested and just wasting my time and will flake 100%. It's just a phone number. This is not last century when giving out a phone number meant commitment. There are countless app for blocking people if something does not go well. I have an app “Mr. Number” and another “White Pages” than not only gives you name and number but the registered address of who is calling, helps track scammers and whether or not someone is being up front about who they are and where they are from. App saved me many times. I know this primarily may be a U.S. thing but as P said a woman giving me her number is a clear sign of interest NOT a guarantee things will work out in the long run, but technology helps with the security. Other thing is if you are online in any way Facebook, OLD apps, those job networking sites and apps not a damn thing you do is all that “private” nothing profound any more about giving out a number.
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 Other thing is if you are online in any way Facebook, OLD apps, those job networking sites and apps not a damn thing you do is all that “private” nothing profound any more about giving out a number. Again, all depends how you are set up online. None of my social media accounts are connected to a phone number, don't even have messenger for FB on my phone nor are those accounts set up with my main email address. Virtually impossible to find info on me that way. So ya, for those of us who thought of all that before going online, our phone numbers are important to us as is our privacy. None of my OLD photos coincide with any of my social media accounts. You could drag and drop any of my OLD photos and end up nowhere. As well I do consulting work on the side have professional digital presence and no connect to any of that either. I like it that way
Author thecrucible Posted October 28, 2016 Author Posted October 28, 2016 I think this whole thing just brings out my social anxiety. I'm not against giving out my number in principle but I worry about different sides of my life interacting. For instance there's been this anonymous caller at work and it kind of freaks me out because he calls up and says "wanna go on a date?" and doesn't say who he is. He's totally pranking me and I have no idea how he knows my name . Anyway I'm now really coy with people about where exactly I work just in case. I work in a museum and people sometimes ask 'Which museum do you work in?' and I don't want to say in case they turn up at work lol. I mean you never know. I've had a few exes or guys I've dated briefly in the past and I've tried to politely say "maybe we aren't right for each other?" and "I wish you the best and all that" and they bombard with messages followed by ones complaining that I didn't reply. I don't think I'm God's gift to men. I mean I just find it stressful dealing with that kind of thing. At the same time I need to chill out a little bit. I can see it from both sides. Glad some people can empathise a little with my slight paranoia. Thanks for all your thoughts. 1
Gaeta Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I think this whole thing just brings out my social anxiety. I'm not against giving out my number in principle but I worry about different sides of my life interacting. For instance there's been this anonymous caller at work and it kind of freaks me out because he calls up and says "wanna go on a date?" and doesn't say who he is. He's totally pranking me and I have no idea how he knows my name . Anyway I'm now really coy with people about where exactly I work just in case. I work in a museum and people sometimes ask 'Which museum do you work in?' and I don't want to say in case they turn up at work lol. I mean you never know. I've had a few exes or guys I've dated briefly in the past and I've tried to politely say "maybe we aren't right for each other?" and "I wish you the best and all that" and they bombard with messages followed by ones complaining that I didn't reply. I don't think I'm God's gift to men. I mean I just find it stressful dealing with that kind of thing. At the same time I need to chill out a little bit. I can see it from both sides. Glad some people can empathise a little with my slight paranoia. Thanks for all your thoughts. Hon, everyone that dates has stories similar to this. I have been in a relationship for a full year and I still get random calls from men I went on dates with like 2 years ago. It's no big deal, I say 'no thank you' hand up and block them. You can't be afraid of your own shadow all the time. If you don't like giving your mobile than go through an app. I've had my mobile number for years. I met close to 200 men when I was online which means I gave it out 200 times and nothing dramatic happened. If someone wants to harass you he'll find you even if he doesn't have your number.
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 At the same time I need to chill out a little bit. I can see it from both sides. Glad some people can empathise a little with my slight paranoia. Thanks for all your thoughts. I totally get it! When you meet someone at a party, bar, or even at the mall you have a chance to see what you are giving your number out to. Online you have NO idea what's on the other side. Giving out your # online you might as well put your phone number up on a bathroom stall and hope that men call it "for a good time.":laugh: No thanks! Try one of the apps they are great!
phineas Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 I totally get it! When you meet someone at a party, bar, or even at the mall you have a chance to see what you are giving your number out to. Online you have NO idea what's on the other side. Giving out your # online you might as well put your phone number up on a bathroom stall and hope that men call it "for a good time.":laugh: No thanks! Try one of the apps they are great! after I hit the point where I had to make women skype or some other video chat from online before I met I decided it was time to delete my profile. LOL!
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 after I hit the point where I had to make women skype or some other video chat from online before I met I decided it was time to delete my profile. LOL! Why, were you being deceived by women misrepresenting themselves when you met them? OLD really is a gamble...
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