Ppikker Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 I've been dating a man I met on Zoosk. Our first date was the end of July. He lives about an hour away from me so we really only see each other on weekends. About 2 weekends a month. I have been to his home and even met some of his family and friends. I am almost 61 and he is 63. Due to past relationships, and trust issues, we both agreed to start as friends and see where it went from there. This weekend our conversations went the direction of the past. At our ages and considering we both went through the 60's & 70's, you can imagine there might be some good stories to share. So I asked him to share a deep, dark secret with me and I would, too. This was all in light hearted humor, but it was also a way, I thought, to talk about our past without being so dead serious. It ended up I shared mine but he didn't dish. Finally, this morning he laughed and said, "Ok, my secret is that I wear women's clothes." I was silently processing what he said wondering if he was serious, then he laughed and said "I'm just joking!" Later in the day in a different conversation I mentioned he had texted me a photo of his driver's license before we actually met. You know, to show me that he was a real person. He said "Yes, I did but that was actually my gay twi brother." Then he made a joke out of it. Am I over-reacting to think that someone wouldn't bring these things up unless it was really true? Because honestly, the subject of homosexuality, cross dressing, etc. has not even come up in any of our conversations. I would appreciate some guidance! Thanks, Ppikker
preraph Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Well, all you can do is wait and see. If he had a twin, don't you think that would have come up before now? Even if he is a cross-dresser, you don't know how serious that is or if he was just remembering one of those wild nights after the clubs closed in the '70s. Back then, everyone was a cross-dresser! If he is a real habitual cross-dresser, then it just depends to what degree it is whether it should be a problem or anything you'll ever even see. A friend of mine's first husband enjoyed doing that some, but it didn't really affect her much. If you've been having sex and everything is going okay, I wouldn't worry about it, but it will always be your choice whether to indulge him or not. Just drop it and see if the subject or his twin brother turns up again. All us '70s people have some sharp bends, you know.
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