Peggy92 Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Hello! So there's this guy I like for a long time. We are sort of friends. I had never tried to tell him how I feel because he had a girlfriend. He recently broke up. We had always had weird moments like starring at each other etc. Lately we hang out a lot. He talks me up to his friends all the time about everything I do. He makes silly compliments like " you have nice teeth" (what is that suppose to mean?) And he wants to sit next to me in order to talk to me. He is also very overprotective of me. It's is weird because he treats me differently compared to the other girls he hangs. I still haven't tried to tell him how I feel because he told me he is not ready to get in a relationship (he dated that girl for 3 years). I think I'm getting mixed signals. I don't know how to decode his behavior towards to me. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you!
Redhead14 Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Hello! So there's this guy I like for a long time. We are sort of friends. I had never tried to tell him how I feel because he had a girlfriend. He recently broke up. We had always had weird moments like starring at each other etc. Lately we hang out a lot. He talks me up to his friends all the time about everything I do. He makes silly compliments like " you have nice teeth" (what is that suppose to mean?) And he wants to sit next to me in order to talk to me. He is also very overprotective of me. It's is weird because he treats me differently compared to the other girls he hangs. I still haven't tried to tell him how I feel because he told me he is not ready to get in a relationship (he dated that girl for 3 years). I think I'm getting mixed signals. I don't know how to decode his behavior towards to me. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you! he told me he is not ready to get in a relationship (he dated that girl for 3 years). -- Believe him. Sure, he's spending time with you and probably enjoying it. But, it's more than likely that you are a distraction for him from the pain of that breakup. It is not wise to hang out with a person who is recently out of a relationship while hoping, expecting a relationship with them for yourself. You are likely what's referred to as the "rebound" girl. Don't keep seeing him and/or become intimate with him if you think you want him for a boyfriend. 1
preraph Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Don't be a cad and move in now while he's still hurting and vulnerable from the breakup. Be smart and just let him get through all the aftermath. I mean, anyone who just broke up is probably feeling like crap and needing some validation that they're still attractive, but if you become that person for him, then he will just dump you once he's built himself back up and feels confident enough to date again, so it's not a good move. In fact, if I were you, I'd make myself scarce during this time so as not to fall into that trap. Stay gone awhile or just scarce and not all up in his business and give it a few months and then see if he ever asks you out on a date. A real date. If he doesn't ask you on a real date, then he's not trying to DATE you, if you get my meaning. Don't let him just lean on you and be his mother.
Sendmewings Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 (edited) Sounds risky if it was recent I would stay away Edited October 17, 2016 by Sendmewings
stillafool Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Telling you you have nice teeth is not weird. I compliment people who have good teeth all the time (both men and women). If he was in a 3 year relationship it is doubtful that he is over his ex. He may go back to her. If not, after a 3 year relationship he definitely doesn't want to get back into another one before he dates around. Since he knows you are single and he's single now if he's interested in you he will ask you out on a proper date. Until he does that do not take the other things he does and say to you seriously.
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