melliemel44 Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Some advice please Iv been in a relationship for 3 years..im 44 female hes 33 male..recently left AGAIN..we broke up for 4 months in july of last year..we have quite a volatile relationship..and in brief the reason for the split last time was a broken ankle after yet another row...forward on ..my son is 23 and lives with us..but the two of them dont talk apart from the odd hello here and there..the atmosphere in the house is exhausting..my boyfriend thinks my son should pay and do more around the house..my son is working and at college training..my boyfriend on the other hand..works..when he feels like it..hes had around 6 jobs in 3 years its never consistent...i work..and i pay all of the bills in the house ..they give me money..but not enough..my boyfriend sometimes uses cocaine as a crutch when hes down..which causes all sorts of rows.....anyway hes now been left for 3 weeks and we have had contact...but he says he cannot live in the house with my son..i want out of the relationship..but i cant seem to let it go..its not healthy..but im missing him..i feel lonely..and miss the company...where do i go from here??
Kelley Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Missing him and feeling lonely is all part of breaking up, it's normal to feel like that. My ex cheated on me then went off with her, guess what I still miss him, love him and feel lonely. But they are not reasons for me to fight for him (I don't want him back). Don't let these normal feelings cloud your judgement on what is actually good for you in the long run. It's just part of the break up, you work through it, get over it and move on. You sound miserable and it doesn't sound very healthy. You have to remember that sometimes it's harder to hold on than to let go, the missing and loneliness with go eventually, they are not reasons to hold on. Some advice please Iv been in a relationship for 3 years..im 44 female hes 33 male..recently left AGAIN..we broke up for 4 months in july of last year..we have quite a volatile relationship..and in brief the reason for the split last time was a broken ankle after yet another row...forward on ..my son is 23 and lives with us..but the two of them dont talk apart from the odd hello here and there..the atmosphere in the house is exhausting..my boyfriend thinks my son should pay and do more around the house..my son is working and at college training..my boyfriend on the other hand..works..when he feels like it..hes had around 6 jobs in 3 years its never consistent...i work..and i pay all of the bills in the house ..they give me money..but not enough..my boyfriend sometimes uses cocaine as a crutch when hes down..which causes all sorts of rows.....anyway hes now been left for 3 weeks and we have had contact...but he says he cannot live in the house with my son..i want out of the relationship..but i cant seem to let it go..its not healthy..but im missing him..i feel lonely..and miss the company...where do i go from here??
AT15 Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Co dependency. You're caught in a cycle. You already have a son, you don't need another one. What are your deal breakers in a relationship? Coke is a relationship killer
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