Plaster Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 So she left me a month ago. Long story short I lost my temper with her a few times because I was paranoid and moody because I was using too much cocaine. Fast forward 4 weeks, I'm back at the gym, cmpletley clean (even alcohol and smokes!) and we have recently started talking. I confessed my feelings, and she asks me a question I'd I had had sex with a certain woman.. I haven't, so. I said that, but she started calling me a liar and saying how now we are really ruined because she can't be with a liar. She kept saying 'this is your last chance to tell me. The truth' and when I told her the truth she flipped out more. She said 'a reliable source told her' it is true. I'm so hurt. Literally had the worst few months, she was the only good thing about them. I'm just lost. I'm working on myself, and I believe I've made massive steps and ice got my temper under control, back training, strict diet, no intoxicants, but I just feel so low. I need some support and opinions.
MsJayne Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 (edited) Hmm, as the long-suffering ex-partner of a cocaine user, I can tell you that it's not easy to forgive someone who has treated you badly. 19 years later and I still haven't forgotten what it was like being a fearful, nervous wreck in my own home, sleeping in my car to get away from the abuse, and so on, blah,blah,blah. I also remember when I finally reached the point where I despised him, the stomach-turning sight of him on his knees pleading with me to go back to him, completely unable to understand that his behaviour had made me regard him with nothing but embarrassed pity and contempt. I commend you for getting yourself together, but honestly, I wouldn't hold out too much hope for a reunion. From what you say the relationship sounds troubled and a little on the juvenile side, she can't cite "a reliable source" to make an accusation like that and not tell you who that source is, that's manipulative and childish..... I say you would be best to start the painful process of moving on and learning from the experience. Keep up your commitment to stay clean, and next time you are lucky enough to have someone you love in your life, take good care of the relationship. Good luck. Edited October 17, 2016 by MsJayne
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