baba999 Posted October 15, 2016 Posted October 15, 2016 24F/28M I met a guy on Okcupid a month ago, since then we met twice a week. Every meeting we talked a lot and had fun. And we only kissed. He is gentleman and always pays, remember what i said and what I like. But there are red flags: When i ask is he looking for long-term or other relationships he said “I am open to anything, it depends on the individual. You don’t know until you get to know that person.” I think if a guy really likes me he would say “I am looking for long term”. He only text me once a day at 10pm, just a quick how’s your day text, and reply every text I sent him around 15min-30min after he READ it and he is not busy. So 10 texts will cost us 2 hours! which is unbelievable. I called him once and he called me the next day but that’s it, no more calls. He said he wants 50/50 effort relationship and he likes girls who initiate and make plans. He is very eager to plan things with me. He asked me to go camping with his friends next week and go to watch a hockey game I mentioned two weeks ago. He said every time he met me he likes me more. We already know each other a month(9 dates in total, 8 hrs each date) but he didn’t ask to be exclusive or take down our profile. Neither of us goes online anymore. he said he was hurt and overthought things when his ex didn’t text back and cheated him twice. So now he doesn’t want to overthink things or text me everyday so he won’t be stressed and overthink. I really want to find a boyfriend and not interested in casual dating, I am a very insecure person and I want him text me several times everyday and call me often. I didn’t tell him what i want. This makes me stressful . I enjoy our time together very much but feel extremely stressful when i cannot see him. I don’t know whether i should end things because I am stressful most of the time. Or is it my problem and it will be the same with other guys?
BaileyB Posted October 15, 2016 Posted October 15, 2016 It doesn't really sound like he is doing anything wrong. You have only known him for a month - you've seen each other several times for very loooong dates. He's a little slow to text - big deal. He says he doesn't know what he wants... You have only known him FOR A MONTH! Of course he doesn't know what he wants. You can end things with him if you like, but it sounds like this is your anxiety issue and I would think that you will find reasons not to like the next guy too...
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