Everyone and their dog wants me to get a girlfriend. Why?

[Revin]

Seriously, why is everyone so eager for me to get into a relationship? Family, friends and coworkers alike. I've numerous coworkers asking why I don't have one, asking what kind of girl I am into so they can help look for one. Even today my boss, who before could care less has jumped in on this group and even asked another employee from the incoming shift if she was dating anyone and if she was interested in me, she (the coworker) actually told me tight after words. Last week I decided that I would lie and say I got one, EVERYONE was so thrilled. They just 3 days ago when one asked how it was going, I said we broke it off, and they were devastated. Why, I ask why? I have even stated that I am just not interested in finding someone and won't be until further notice. And they still persist.

Even scoff at and brush off notions of marriage and children, when they ask about. Trying to be a dick about so maybe they'll leave me alone about it.

[ZayKayWill]

If I was you I would just be firm and be honest with why you don't want one. If they don't understand or can't respect that that's their problem. Also it's okay to tell them to stop asking you and bugging you about that if they keep annoying you. That's what I'd do.

[Shanex]

I've been in the situation (Both being single and people constantly looking to set me up some dates)

 

The answer: yes it's irritating, if you're happily single for now. Just tell them for once, they should get it.

 

The worse can be the family once you reach 30, because they of course want to expand the family, have you get married and have children.

 

Personally, it was rather friends, and close one trying to hook me up, it did work but never for too long. I can look for someone myself without all the 'pressure' that some may put on you.

[stillafool]

I don't know why people don't mind their own business. I guess people want you to be as miserable as they are.

[preraph]

It depends on whether how they are acting reflects that they know you well and feel you are truly needing a mate or whether they're just mouthing off. I find when people who aren't really in your inner circle goad you to marry or have kids, they're usually bitterly jealous of your freedom. Misery loves company.

[Springsummer]

I don't know why people don't mind their own business. I guess people want you to be as miserable as they are.

 

or maybe people are happily with a partner and they love OP and want him to have the happiness too?

 

 

I don't know...just hypothetically speaking.

[Springsummer]

You should be very grateful if you have all these people who have your best interest in heart...assuming they are not just nosy and like to muddling others' business.

[joseb]

Just explain that you are happy being single, and that marriage and kids is not for everyone.

 

If they persist, say what they are doing is like if you encourage them to divorce so they are like you.

[preraph]

I will tell you that if you indulge these people with excuses or do anything but scoff at their suggestion, they will just keep doing it. If someone pushes you too far, tell them laughingly, "Well, I wouldn't trade lives with you or anybody else, so stop worrying about it."

[central]

Misery loves company?

[Gaeta]

Funny cause when I was single everyone around me would tell me I didn't need anyone and I don't need a man to be happy. My mother especially insisted I should just remain alone for the rest of my life and just have a boy-toy on the side.

 

I kept telling them I wanted someone meaningful in my life and all of them would say it's over rated, I should get another dog.

 

People will be people, just let them talk. If they say something about your single-hood than just reply with something completely irrelevant like: have you seen my keys?

[Gloria25]

Funny cause when I was single everyone around me would tell me I didn't need anyone and I don't need a man to be happy. My mother especially insisted I should just remain alone for the rest of my life and just have a boy-toy on the side.

 

I kept telling them I wanted someone meaningful in my life and all of them would say it's over rated, I should get another dog.

 

People will be people, just let them talk. If they say something about your single-hood than just reply with something completely irrelevant like: have you seen my keys?

 

Exactly, I work with petty, over the hill and pathetic women - so nothing but jealousy and envy is reflected in their comments (like the people the OP is sorta referring to)...Then, you have people like the ones Gaeta knew, who probably have good feelings for Gaeta and it is reflected in their statements about being single.

 

Problem is, people - like the ones I work with - if you avoid them, say something snarky in response, they don't give up. Actually it makes them wanna try harder cuz unhappy people want you to be unhappy like them too. Instead of them getting a life and becoming happy, they sit around and nit pick at everyone else.

 

The best I could recommend is pretty much ignore and like Gaeta says, counter them with a question about them, something on TV, etc. So, like they say, 'You still haven't got a girlfriend?', say 'Hey, I like that shirt you're wearing, where did you get it from?'

 

That's why I can't stand people...

 

But you know, pathetic people aside...we humans pretty much seem to find meaning in mating and procreating. My dad, on his death bed said he wished he made more time to be with his kids. So, people expect you to be on that track of mate and kids. When you're not - they assume that you have no reason to live.

 

Well, ok, what about people who cannot have kids for medical reasons? What happens to people sworn to celibacy? Not every person is made to have kids.

[ManyDissapoint]

For me it's everyone and their girlfriend wants me to get a dog. Seriously everyone has puppies around here.

[Osmium13]

I'd love to know how a dog expresses its wish for you to get a girlfriend. Does it hump your leg and wink suggestively?

[Buddhist]

Because they suspect you are gay.