My boyfriend is going away?

[MEO1016]

My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over a year and for his college thesis it has to do with Amsterdam. He's going to be an architect so even his classes are quite intensive. We're both still in school I'm 2 years younger than him though he's 22 and I'm 20. When school started he said that he didn't know if his class was really going to Amsterdam yet but he broke the news to me last night. I tried to act like I was okay with it but deep down I really wasn't. For some reason it's just really bothering me. We both live with our parents and they already said I can't go well his parents did not mine. I'm happy for him I really am because Amsterdam is a beautiful place but it just doesn't sit well with me. I was cheated on before in a previous relationship so that thought of him finding someone else stays with me. I don't know why, I get he's a different person and this is a different relationship. I wish I could go so we could experience something different since we never went away together. I don't know how to deal with this I get so sad when I think of it all the time. He's only going for a week but still.

Edited October 15, 2016 by MEO1016

[ExpatInItaly]

While I was reading, I was expecting you to say he'd be gone for an extended period.

 

But a week? You can do this, no problem. I have been cheated on too, so I understand you're a little anxious. He isn't your cheating ex, though. You can't paint all guys with the same brush.

 

Keep in mind, a cheater will cheat regardless of where they are. Has he previously given you a reason not to trust him? If not, you really need to work on your insecurity about this. If so, well, you shouldn't be with someone you don't feel you can trust. 7 days is very little time to be apart. This will be a good opportunity for you to manage your own anxiety and confront your demons. If you let them control you and make a big deal out of a week-long trip, the relationship won't last.

[Omei]

A week ?

 

Put on your big girl pants you'll be okay lol

 

I was also expecting a long journey.