My ex contacted me after no contact

[John96for]

I dated this girl for about year and half or so was very good. Awesome sex. We had a lot of fun going away. Very much in love. I really care about her a lot.

 

Then she starts working lots as she needs money, so then she starts to go out with her girlfriend from work all the time. Pretty much breaks up with me. So when it started i asked her to do stuff, she ignored me said she was busy all the time.

We don't see each other for a month or 2. I just ignored her then and didn't call her.

 

I find out after we broke up she is seeing someone

 

I go no contact for a month or so. Then outa the blue she texts and says she misses me. I don't text back, she then texts again saying i miss you and the times we had. so i i text back and we talk once again.

 

She says in the text she loved the sex we had, is she hinting she wants to again?

 

So she's always nice and sweet with me, and asks to meet up, i say yeah.

 

So we meet up she takes me out for dinner and drinks, and she is all happy. She not mention this other guy if there is one. Its nice to see her and catch up.

 

She kinda flirts with me and talks about sex. so nothing happens sexually, i was not expecting it anyways. She says come here and kisses me on the lips. and says will see you soon.

 

She starts calling and keeps in touch every day, then ask me out again. We hang out but don't have sex, which is fine. I don't think she is dating anyone though, as we met right after she worked.

 

We are going out to a show next week which we planned before we broke up.

 

Im not sure what to think?, she calls me after work alot talking about doing stuff in the future together. I would like to date her again, but not sure if I'm in the friend zone. We did have a very strong friendship kinda before we dated, we were best friends.

 

I don't think i just wanna be friends if she is dating someone. She said she isn't but is hard to tell. Do you think she still wants me or likes me? or is she just trying to be nice.

[cucumber95]

You could be her backup plan or she just wants sex with you? I don't know if she slept with anyone, maybe she did, and now she knows that you were better in bed?

 

Watch out here, it looks weird, ask her if she wants to get back or not, if she says some bull**** just leave...

 

Or maybe she realised that she did wrong by not spending lot time with you?

[John96for]

Im not sure we had very good relationship,we both loved each other a lot. A lot of good memories.

 

She always told i was best and nicest guy she dated in bed to she would always say that.

 

I think she feels bad she bailed on me, she was mad about something i know it.

But why would she keep calling and stuff if she is dating someone? thats if she is.

 

I dont wanna be around if she's with someone

[Marc878]

Is this what you want in your life is the question you should be asking.

[Kelley]

I think you are on the back burner so to speak, maybe she just likes spending time with you as a friend, or wants to keep you on side for another reason. My ex did that to me for 3 months, I thought we would work things out, he used me to move on to his now girlfriend, and I'm left devastated and now moving on. Look after you, if you are happy to be a 'friend' and find out about her boyfriend then great, if not I would move on now.

[John96for]

It's like when I go no contact she calls or wants to see me. Think I'm done maybe as I'm not gonna be second in line. I still have feelings for her. She told me she cared to recently.

 

Still kinda wondering what to do. The thought of her being with someone else hurts like hell.

 

:-(

[cucumber95]

Block her and go no contact. It is hard but it is what you need to do. Maybe you can work out things in future? but now you need to heal after break up.

[Ash_cad]

I dated this girl for about year and half or so was very good. Awesome sex. We had a lot of fun going away. Very much in love. I really care about her a lot.

 

Then she starts working lots as she needs money, so then she starts to go out with her girlfriend from work all the time. Pretty much breaks up with me. So when it started i asked her to do stuff, she ignored me said she was busy all the time.

We don't see each other for a month or 2. I just ignored her then and didn't call her.

 

I find out after we broke up she is seeing someone

 

I go no contact for a month or so. Then outa the blue she texts and says she misses me. I don't text back, she then texts again saying i miss you and the times we had. so i i text back and we talk once again.

 

She says in the text she loved the sex we had, is she hinting she wants to again?

 

So she's always nice and sweet with me, and asks to meet up, i say yeah.

 

So we meet up she takes me out for dinner and drinks, and she is all happy. She not mention this other guy if there is one. Its nice to see her and catch up.

 

She kinda flirts with me and talks about sex. so nothing happens sexually, i was not expecting it anyways. She says come here and kisses me on the lips. and says will see you soon.

 

She starts calling and keeps in touch every day, then ask me out again. We hang out but don't have sex, which is fine. I don't think she is dating anyone though, as we met right after she worked.

 

We are going out to a show next week which we planned before we broke up.

 

Im not sure what to think?, she calls me after work alot talking about doing stuff in the future together. I would like to date her again, but not sure if I'm in the friend zone. We did have a very strong friendship kinda before we dated, we were best friends.

 

I don't think i just wanna be friends if she is dating someone. She said she isn't but is hard to tell. Do you think she still wants me or likes me? or is she just trying to be nice.

 

 

Just ask the question. ARE YOU DATING ? and if no what you expecting from this contact ? are we friends are we working things out

Keep it simple

 

big red flag if she didnt ask you yet if you are seeing someone means she does want you to ask the same question just FYI

[lauri]

Bro, she will NEVER respect you if you take her back, especially if she knows you know she's dating someone else.

 

She's losing respect for you every time you speak to her and see her right now. She is dating someone else shortly after you broke up? Don't you think she was disrespecting you by talking to this guy, who she clearly was / is interested in, while she was with you?

 

She's just making sure you don't hate her and she has you as plan B. Maybe the sex isn't half as good with this new guy so she's maybe looking at making the switch back. But what makes you think this girl is such a good catch that she even deserves you?

 

Honestly, stop making her feel good at your expense. She's gonna end up cutting you off again after she gets confirmation that you don't hate her and she is still a "good person". I can almost guarantee you that your gut is screaming right now that things are not right.

 

I would straight up message her saying that you're not interested in being her friend and that you'd appreciate it if she would stop contacting you (and block her). I know it's not easy but it's the best for you man...stop putting her wellbeing ahead of yours. It won't end well and you'll just end up more hurt.

[aloneinaz]

Ok, this might be hard to hear but.. it's a common line for both sexes to tell their partner "you're the best in bed I've ever had".. Classic line.

 

Right now, you're being her doormat. Her second choice. Her fill in. She snaps and you go running like a little puppy. That's not attractive to anyone, especially an ex.

 

What you should do? Vanish from her life. She kicked you out of it. Said "beat it kid". Then, got bored or wanted more attention and started texting you again. She's driving the bus with all the power and decision making.

 

Grab your pride and self esteem back from her. Take control. Block her number or change yours. Go date some new people. Don't ever settle for being anyone's second choice.