bestfriend not lovers ?

[lily88]

hello

so i’ve been dating this guy for over a month now , i love yeah i know its a short periode but it’s like i’ve known him since forever !

i saw him only twice and then he had to go to France for studing..

so we’re in LDR, tbh its not really a problem as we try to make it work.

so the thing is he’s not the romantic type , like at all ! he was the first to say that he loves me yeah he does say sweet things sometimes but only sometimes !

I really dont know what to do bc he said he feels stupid when he says such things but no being able to see him and not hearing anything nice is really bothering me

when I try to talk to him he never take anything serious ? or he will say that he’s teasing me bc he loves me and that is his way to express his love..

I really dont know what to do or what to feel about , bc when we talk its starting to feel like we’re best friend not lovers?

anyway, thank you

[Lovezen_30]

hello

so i’ve been dating this guy for over a month now , i love yeah i know its a short periode but it’s like i’ve known him since forever !

i saw him only twice and then he had to go to France for studing..

so we’re in LDR, tbh its not really a problem as we try to make it work.

so the thing is he’s not the romantic type , like at all ! he was the first to say that he loves me yeah he does say sweet things sometimes but only sometimes !

I really dont know what to do bc he said he feels stupid when he says such things but no being able to see him and not hearing anything nice is really bothering me

when I try to talk to him he never take anything serious ? or he will say that he’s teasing me bc he loves me and that is his way to express his love..

I really dont know what to do or what to feel about , bc when we talk its starting to feel like we’re best friend not lovers?

anyway, thank you

 

Cut him loose. HE SHOULD BE ON HIS BEST BEHAVIOUR during this period. He can't say anything nice? You have tried to talk to him as an adult and he won't take you seriously.

 

Forget it. If he won't take you seriously, loose him and find someone who will.

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[preraph]

Honey, he doesn't love you. He's only seen you twice! You're trying to play like you have a relationship. As he said, he thinks it's absurd to be doing that.

[lily88]

thank you for the reply

as I said everytime i try to talk to him he doesnt take it seriously.

i've spoken to him recently and i've asked him if he always act this way? begin a ' jerk ' and he said that he is thay way with everyone not just me actually he kinda treat me better than others in his point of view.

even with other girls, it always has been the same way, some girl hate him for it and some just cope with it.

yeah I know I only saw him twice but trust me , there was something in the beginning that felt so magical ! he's like a male version of me, we agree on everything like literally everything.

even when we saw each other it never felt like it was the first time!

if it was just another normal guy yes i would just forget about it, but something about I just cant let it go i dont know :/

[preraph]

thank you for the reply

as I said everytime i try to talk to him he doesnt take it seriously.

i've spoken to him recently and i've asked him if he always act this way? begin a ' jerk ' and he said that he is thay way with everyone not just me actually he kinda treat me better than others in his point of view.

even with other girls, it always has been the same way, some girl hate him for it and some just cope with it.

yeah I know I only saw him twice but trust me , there was something in the beginning that felt so magical ! he's like a male version of me, we agree on everything like literally everything.

even when we saw each other it never felt like it was the first time!

if it was just another normal guy yes i would just forget about it, but something about I just cant let it go i dont know :/

 

He's not a male version of you. When guys are first interested in a woman, they say and do things to seem like they are the perfect guy for them, until they get tired of doing that lie. He's not like you. Now you tell me he's admitted to being a jerk, you need to realize if a guy tells you that, that it is true and it's his way of giving you warning because now if you stay even after you know he's a jerk, then that absolves him of any obligation at all to treat you with respect and be fair and decent.

 

You don't know him, but I can guarantee you the longer you know him, that is the most real version of him, not the one who was gung-ho enough at first to present a good front. You're investing in this guy for no good reason. He's going to waste a lot of your time if you let him and disappoint you.

[Redhead14]

hello

so i’ve been dating this guy for over a month now , i love yeah i know its a short periode but it’s like i’ve known him since forever !

i saw him only twice and then he had to go to France for studing..

so we’re in LDR, tbh its not really a problem as we try to make it work.

so the thing is he’s not the romantic type , like at all ! he was the first to say that he loves me yeah he does say sweet things sometimes but only sometimes !

I really dont know what to do bc he said he feels stupid when he says such things but no being able to see him and not hearing anything nice is really bothering me

when I try to talk to him he never take anything serious ? or he will say that he’s teasing me bc he loves me and that is his way to express his love..

I really dont know what to do or what to feel about , bc when we talk its starting to feel like we’re best friend not lovers?

anyway, thank you

 

Oh, holy cow! Sweetie, you only had two dates with this man!!!!! Were you intimate with him? Get a grip!

it’s like i’ve known him since forever ! -- Reality is -- you haven't. You are fantasizing and idealizing and he's playing on that. You are nothing but entertainment and ego-boosting.

 

when I try to talk to him he never take anything serious -- That's because he's not taking you seriously.

 

Block him and delete him from every venue possible.

 

when we talk its starting to feel like we’re best friend not lovers?

-- you aren't either of those things to him. I promise you.

 

Just because a man has sex with you, doesn't mean he is your best friend or lover.

 

It's OK if you decide to have sex with a man, but I always tell any woman that the first time they have sex with a man, especially early, she should assume it will be a one-night stand until he shows you otherwise.

 

This guy knew he was going home soon, he got what he wanted and now he's playing with you until he gets the opportunity to come back to where you are so that he can have sex again. He's stringing you along. No, you're stringing yourself along . . .

[lily88]

but we didnt have sex .. we didnt even kiss

the first date was just coffee and we talked and then he wanted to take a picture of the two of us as a remainder of the 1st date ..

the second one , same as the first , he just held my hand and said how he wish if he had met me earlier in his life ..

im not the type of girl who would make something out of nothing thats why im torn ..