sickofyou Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 My ex and I have recently split up. To keep things short, we have been dating a year. I noticed right off the bat she was very self-entitled and everything was all about her. Nothing anyone does for her is as good as what she does for others and that's only out of convenience. Come to find out we got pregnant. Wasn't planned. When it came time for our daughter to arrive I was by her side in the hospital for 3 weeks. She had complications after giving birth but the baby was healthy. None of her family came to help. I was there day and night helping. I expected some hormones to arise but nothing like I've experienced. Now at 3 weeks post partum, she constantly tells me that I never help nor did I ever help. I'm called everything from trash to a horrible father. Bare in mind that when things are "good" she says I'm a great father. I spend all my free time with my daughter, feed and change her diaper. There is not one thing she has to ask me to do. I'm there always. But when we aren't getting along she chooses to keep her from me. Telling me I can't see her and telling me she is going to make my life a living hell. I've lived out of a suitcase for 3 weeks now and shes yet to stay at my place (no we dont' live together, yes before you ask the child is mine). She says she doesn't like my place ( not sure why its a nice apartment, an excuse is what I believe) Yet asks me to come stay with her at her sister(s) house. She has 5 and depending which one shes at is the one I have to stay at in order to see my child otherwise I won't be able to. I don't like sleeping on other people's couches, sharing showers, not being home. Now I'm back to work and I spend all my free time helping but when its time for bed I come home due to having to be at work by 5am. I'm told that I'm a bad father and no help due to that. My reply was that if she needed help then ask. I sure don't mind. After all she said she was staying with her sister so she could help once I returned to work. Which is what happened. I just don't know what to do. I shouldn't have to be a verbal punching bag and have to fight with her every time I want to see my child. And I shouldn't have to drive all over the city to see her. She likes to use her a pawn to get me to do what she wants, all along cussing me like I'm trash. Is there anything I can do. I just want to be in my child's life and I don't want to miss out on anything. She sees how bad not seeing my daughter upsets me and yet she continues the games. I'm 34 and shes 31. This is our first child.
JewelD Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 Go to court and get visitation set up as well as child support.
Got it Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 She may have post partum depression or worse. Have you gone to her doctor's appointments and can bring it up? I do agree that you want to legal advice on what to do about your rights to your child as that is not superseded by the mother's issues.
Author sickofyou Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 I've been to her appointmentsisters with her. She's on xanax and zoloft. They haven't diagnosised her with ppl. I was hoping we could avoid the court sys6but she's being very unfair and selfish. She's leaving me no choice
Toodaloo Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 Get back to the doctor. Seems like she is struggling and has issues but who knows what they are because she isn't talking about them. Get visitation rights set up. If you have split up then you need to behave as though you are. When you have your daughter she is in your care, when your ex has her she is in her care and its not all cosy cosy sleeping on sofas and pretending. Keep it simple. Keep it clear.
Author sickofyou Posted October 16, 2016 Author Posted October 16, 2016 (edited) That's the problem, I don't have my daughter because she won't let me have one on one time with her. She says if I want to see her I can "insert which hoola-hoop to jump through this week" she doesn't help, meet me half way. The most effort she puts up is cussing me and talking down to me, along with the constant threats of making my life hell , it's pretty difficult to just be in my daughters life. Ontop of the already issues, she's now drinking alcohol while on xanax and depression meds. I found this out tonight. I'm afraid if I go the court route then my time with my daughter will be even less than what it is now. I may have to out up with her nonesense now but atleast I get to see her. However it's constant drama and I don't have alone time with her. Maybe it would be worth going the legal route. I'm not sure what the best course of action is. For God's sake I just want to be in my daughters life and not have any childish drama from her mother I honestly believe she's just trying to push me to throw in the towel and just walk. Something as simple as changing her diaper, I didn't know where she kept the wipes and diapers. So she runs me in the ground telling me I'm stupid and can't care for my daughter. Well I don't live at her house I have no clue where she keeps the supplies. Edited October 16, 2016 by sickofyou .....
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