Shylo1786 Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 Hi everyone. Here's the situation I'm dealing with, and thanks in advance for reading it! For about 1.5 years, I worked with a man who I developed feelings for. It was the same company, but different departments within the company. Over time, we became good friends. We had lots in common, and we would go out for lunch or coffee, go out after work for drinks (always alone) and text here and there. A few times, I thought he was going to ask me to go home with him, but it never happened. Then, he got a new job. We started seeing each other more socially after that and texting even more, but still it didn't proceed anywhere physically. Soon afterwards, I was accepted into a pretty prestigious graduate school abroad (for a year). Since moving, we have emailed back and forth, but a few weeks ago he stopped responding as quickly. I had asked him to Skype, and I felt like he blew me off and he never brought it up again. Yesterday, I sent him an email with some photos and I ended it by saying that I missed him. He didn't say it back. Should I be moving on from this situation? The last time we met face to face, he said "Let me know when you get back." I don't know what's going on, but was it too pushy and too far to say that I missed him?
leogirl876 Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 Hi everyone. Here's the situation I'm dealing with, and thanks in advance for reading it! For about 1.5 years, I worked with a man who I developed feelings for. It was the same company, but different departments within the company. Over time, we became good friends. We had lots in common, and we would go out for lunch or coffee, go out after work for drinks (always alone) and text here and there. A few times, I thought he was going to ask me to go home with him, but it never happened. Then, he got a new job. We started seeing each other more socially after that and texting even more, but still it didn't proceed anywhere physically. Soon afterwards, I was accepted into a pretty prestigious graduate school abroad (for a year). Since moving, we have emailed back and forth, but a few weeks ago he stopped responding as quickly. I had asked him to Skype, and I felt like he blew me off and he never brought it up again. Yesterday, I sent him an email with some photos and I ended it by saying that I missed him. He didn't say it back. Should I be moving on from this situation? The last time we met face to face, he said "Let me know when you get back." I don't know what's going on, but was it too pushy and too far to say that I missed him? I'm confused, have you even dated him? If you haven't dated him or gotten that close to him, then yes, telling him you miss him was too pushy!
sweet-pea Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 This one should be easy to read. Not pleasant, but easy. He stopped responding, he didn't accept your request to Skype and he didn't respond to your brave declaration of missing him. I am sorry, but this guy is moving on.
Author Shylo1786 Posted October 13, 2016 Author Posted October 13, 2016 I'm confused, have you even dated him? If you haven't dated him or gotten that close to him, then yes, telling him you miss him was too pushy! There was never a moment when we said we were on "a date," but we were also doing romantic things -- picnics on summer nights, sitting on patios together, talking in parks until the sun set.
leogirl876 Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 There was never a moment when we said we were on "a date," but we were also doing romantic things -- picnics on summer nights, sitting on patios together, talking in parks until the sun set. Then in that case, he might be a douche who lead you on. You should move on. If he doesn't act into you, definitely don't act into him!
Ami1uwant Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 There was never a moment when we said we were on "a date," but we were also doing romantic things -- picnics on summer nights, sitting on patios together, talking in parks until the sun set. He stopped communicating because he moved on snd likely found someone to actually date. Unsure what this was between you guys if he was sending you signals and you said no. It seemed like you two dated.
smackie9 Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 Why are you worrying about a guy that doesn't even have enough ballz to make his feelings known??? Well you heard him tho.....let him know when you get back.....worry about it then.
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