Author malebroken Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 She's txtd me again out the blue, with picture of our sin, she says I'm the one person she wants to share his life with but is scared to let me back in ????
DKT3 Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 She's txtd me again out the blue, with picture of our sin, she says I'm the one person she wants to share his life with but is scared to let me back in ???? Either she is. Enduring some kind of mental instability or she has another man. It's important for you to know, you will either gear up to protect your baby or yourself.
Author malebroken Posted October 30, 2016 Author Posted October 30, 2016 Either she is. Enduring some kind of mental instability or she has another man. It's important for you to know, you will either gear up to protect your baby or yourself. Poss mental issue. Not sure why you would think another man ??
DKT3 Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 Poss mental issue. Not sure why you would think another man ?? Another man would also explain the push pull behavior. It can be caused by guilt and shame along with conflicted feelings. Her behavior is odd, your main goal should not be getting her back, but it should be getting to the bottom of why she is being this way because you may need to step in for the sake of your child. 1
Author malebroken Posted October 30, 2016 Author Posted October 30, 2016 Another man would also explain the push pull behavior. It can be caused by guilt and shame along with conflicted feelings. Her behavior is odd, your main goal should not be getting her back, but it should be getting to the bottom of why she is being this way because you may need to step in for the sake of your child. Thank you. Again she kept trying me pics of our son n what she doing
Author malebroken Posted November 1, 2016 Author Posted November 1, 2016 Definitely she's either mental or I am. Txt me this morning our sons I'll n I should go c him. So I go spend time with him, she's fine with me , makes me drinks etc. After I leave she txt our sons upset I've gone n I'm out of order?? Shortly after text me she rants to sort or relationship for our son Then txt say it's better I'm not in his life n blocks me. This evening send me pictures of toys she wants me buy him for Christmas
Author malebroken Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 So after a couple of months of screwing up since the break n her hating me more n more, I've finally got to a point where we get on for the sake of our son. I can go round hers n play with him whilst she's in same room, we even eat together. In her mind she does for our son. In mine I do to see him but also win her back. I know it may not work, but I plan to just do my best with our son n hope she sees a change. Anyone got any positive advice or stories of this working?
Cheryl11111111111111 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 We all want our baby moms and dads back at some point. Some point but not all. It goes away. She dumped you before you were ready and able to accept and now you are tied to her using her son making it impossible to get over her. You need to see this as a break up because it isn't healthy to use your child to get back your ex. Your ex should want you back for you. 2
Author malebroken Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 The problem I have with letting go is that I was married before this relationship... my ex wife left me 6months into the marriage , we had a son. It was exactly the same I went round we became friends n then got back together. Yes it ended, but we had another 10years together happy n had two more children
Cheryl11111111111111 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 (edited) I run my mouth on this site. I run my mouth a lot. To much. I am still a work in progress. I run it so much when my advice is truly needed, then I feel kind of bad. I should take the real folks on this site ( many are not) a little more to heart. The truth is, I don't believe that the love you are seeking is even fair for another person to be in. If you can really take a look at your life, then what you are looking for is someone else to serve you as far as her love goes. I don't believe it is fair for someone to give their entire life, to make you happy and you her. I think it should be easier and that is the gods honest truth. Yes, maybe if I was in the shoes I will be in today, then I'd be more enjoyable to speak with but I am not there so I don't even want to try to date another person. I know that I want my own life, my own things and when I date then I enjoy the person rather then want to make them fit into my life. It might not make sense, but your wife shouldn't have to be convinced to stand by you. No one should. No one should be manipulated either. It should just happen. Without any promises, expectations and without any need for the other person to be anything but who he or she is! no commercial aspects or expectations that she is to only love you and you only for a life time. A commitment and a relationship are two different things. Unless a commitment is made then it is a relationship and you are just feeling eachother out. Getting to know eachother. Making fun times in the bedroom. The hardest part about being single, is the lack of intimacy and knowing previous partners are having it and good on them. Good on you too for knowing that you aren't going to be in a relationship until you are ready to make it about who that person is and not what you want from her. Some people don't do marriage and that is okay. Other's want it. I don't want marriage. I run my own show and no one has to like it. I don't like where I am today so I don't expect you to. I don't want a marriage. I think I'd like to enjoy dating for what it is and maybe someone will appear and change my mind. I will not go looking for qualities in another person to make my life fit a puzzle. If I do that, then just like everything else I'm going to set myself up for a down fall! that's a single person's perspective. I don't have a relationship loss at the moment to dwell on. I failed myself and missed out on opportunities to do things I'd rather be doing! Edited November 24, 2016 by Cheryl11111111111111
Author malebroken Posted November 29, 2016 Author Posted November 29, 2016 Had a meal with my ex last night She says she doesn't know what she wants n wants me step up as a parent to show her (we have 16month baby together) She's not happy Aline but wasn't happy with us as I had a problem with her other children. Do I believe what she is saying n try my best or am I being played?
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