pippen_2k Posted July 9, 2005 Posted July 9, 2005 Dont get me wrong, I still miss my ex girlfriend, but ive definatley got a clear head these days... Isnt it funny, when ur hurting real bad, we say things like 'How can she do this to me' and 'I dont deserve this'.. but in all hounesty they havent done anything really.. they just dont wanna be with us nemore.... Im lookin back at alot of things now and I feel real pathetic for all the sad attempts I made to get her back... must have drove her crazy..hell..I wouldnt respeond or call back either! So seriously..our ex's dont owe us anything really... Anyone else feel like this or is it just me?
Fallen_Angel Posted July 9, 2005 Posted July 9, 2005 Maybe I'm just really selfish, but I LIKE thinking I don't deserve this!!!! However, when I get angry (which is pretty rare) it doesn't last very long because I honestly don't have much to be angry about. I had a wonderful relationship, but it's over, life goes on, etc. I have to keep reminding myself that I will eventually find a good reason for why this happened. The light bulb may not come on anytime soon, but hopefully it will in time. I also remind myself to maintain dignity. The night everything happened I was REALLY upset - I'm quite overly emotional! - so really I should give my ex props for dealing with it! Ha. Though he was just as upset; only guys don't wail like girls can... When you're hurting, you do and think all sorts of crazy things. It's important to keep yourself in check, though.
sanne Posted July 9, 2005 Posted July 9, 2005 what you learn from NC is that you need to let go. it isn't about who's right or wrong, or what mistakes you have made. it's about picking yourself up off the floor and rebuilding yourself to become a much stronger person. you think i regret my relationship with my ex.....not for a second because the lessons i've learned are invaluable. i now have a much better understanding of what I want in relationships and what not to settle for. being alone isn't the worst thing in the world, and for my case it was necessary. i'm still not completely comfortable in my own skin, and until I am I don't think i'm going to get into another serious relationship.
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