Venn Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 (edited) I have a friend at work who I know has been dating this girl for a very long time and they ended up as exes. I know the girls number and he showed me sexting text messages from her dating back from way back 2013. From what I saw, it's like they do it every other day (the sexting)... I don't know about the actual sex part. I told him hey isn't that kind of degrading for the woman? And he told me its okay because he showed it from people he can trust. I didn't question too much as this guy is kind of hot headed and further more might irritate him. What are your thoughts in this? Is this like secretly shaming one person? Is this guy gonna get in trouble if word gets spread when he finally tells a person who is not trustworthy on secrets? Edited October 13, 2016 by Venn
babylonsfire Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 Without pictures? It'd be hard for him to get in "legal" trouble. There's a few laws, depending on states involved, that might get him in a minor bit of trouble, but nothing major. Now, on a personal level, male or female, any conversation I deemed to be intimate, if it was shared without permission; would be an instant out for me. On the other hand, I generally would rather meet in person or via camera, so the chances of that happening to me are low to begin with. 1
GunslingerRoland Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 It's no different than talking to friends about your actual sex life. #lockerroomtalk 2
preraph Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 Yes. It's out there for anyone who wants to expose it, and more and more people seem able to do that. Why waste your sexy time poking your thumbs at your smartphone. Go have a date and have sex. Phone records can be subpoenaed during divorces or other lawsuits, and potential employers may ask you to sign away your privacy rights and do some investigating before hiring. 1
smackie9 Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 Unless they gave the text to someone else to their own phone, it would be no different than someone verbally telling you "she told me this and then told me that". no proof and it would be hearsay...... 1
Author Venn Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 well the thing is, he said almost all of his friends in the workplace (including me) already seen the text messages. I also forgot to mention he also let me see their facebook chats through facebook as well. lol she still hasn't talked to him but boy I wonder how things are going to turn out especially that she has a new jealous boyfriend also inside the workplace.
Author Venn Posted October 16, 2016 Author Posted October 16, 2016 hello guys. just an update... he's been sending us the text messages again along with the facebook chats... he's been sending them to family and friends and co workers. should this guy get into jail or what? (again no pictures)
dreamingoftigers Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 hello guys. just an update... he's been sending us the text messages again along with the facebook chats... he's been sending them to family and friends and co workers. should this guy get into jail or what? (again no pictures) He sounds like a total idiot and I don't think dealing with total idiots is a good idea. Why would he think friends and family want to read his jerk off texts anyway? Something's wrong with him. 2
Miss Peach Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 This guy is a tool. I feel bad for the woman since that's a huge breach of trust. Just curious. Why is she dating one guy at your work and sexting another one? Did I read that correctly? 1
PegNosePete Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 should this guy get into jail or what? Which law(s) do you think he has broken, exactly?
dreamingoftigers Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 Which law(s) do you think he has broken, exactly? Try the Law of Not Being a Moron.
Author Venn Posted October 27, 2016 Author Posted October 27, 2016 woah. been a long time... so um... this got into a really crazy thing happening. The girl's reputation kinda ended up really bad. I mean it got to the point where the new BF and the old BF got into a fistfight. Just because of this whole copy paste with his sexting messages. Also they were not sexting anymore when they were not in a relationship anymore with her ex. He's been doing this for revenge... how they ended up badly with her ex I have no idea.
GoreSP Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 woah. been a long time... so um... this got into a really crazy thing happening. The girl's reputation kinda ended up really bad. I mean it got to the point where the new BF and the old BF got into a fistfight. Just because of this whole copy paste with his sexting messages. Also they were not sexting anymore when they were not in a relationship anymore with her ex. He's been doing this for revenge... how they ended up badly with her ex I have no idea. Any reason why you didn't call him out at first for sharing intimate details and potentially ruining someone's reputation? If you posted here asking if he could get in legal trouble, it's because, deep down, you must have felt like it was wrong, no?
Author Venn Posted October 28, 2016 Author Posted October 28, 2016 I did call him out. And then he gave me a reason that what he's doing was kinda safe. So I "kinda" thought it was safe but yes deep down I know something was wrong.
GoreSP Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I did call him out. And then he gave me a reason that what he's doing was kinda safe. So I "kinda" thought it was safe but yes deep down I know something was wrong. Ok my bad. Thanks for calling him out.
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