Shelly1991 Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Have you ever been in a relationship where you know it's not working but you stay in the hopes of it getting better? That's where I am right now, and every time I try and let go he pulls me back in. I just want my happiness back. Finding the strength to leave is the hardest.
l8estnews Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Finding the strength to leave is the hardest. But this is what you really need. To leave. This is like having a knife in you. You just have to find the courage to pull it out, despite the pain, so you can start treatment and on your way to full recovery. You're wasting precious time to find someone whom you can be happy with. Good luck!
ackuric Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Letting go is not easy, but its not fair for him or yourself to feel the need to have to let go before you break up...unless you're the kind of person that needs that leverage. Break up with him if you don't want to be with him and see no future...procrastinating and letting things go on will only make it harder. Go and Stay NC, as cold as it seems it will only help yourself and him in the long run. Think ahead! Way ahead.
aloneinaz Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Absolutely end that relationship. You're not obligated to stay in a relationship that's need providing what you need. Everyone takes the risk of getting dumped when they enter one. He's a big boy and will be fine. I had an early relationship when I was young. I was in the same position. She threatened self harm and even suicide if I left her. Even with her threats, I still ended it as kindly as I could. Guess what, 30 plus years later, I see on FB that she's been married for years and is very happy. At times we have to have our best interests in mind. Don't lose sight of that fact. Just be kind, considerate of his feelings and let him know you have no aspirations to continue any contact after it's over so both of you can heal and move forward. This way he won't be surprised when you go radio silent on him which is the best thing for both of you.
OneLov Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 You start by realizing you are not responsible for him. The only duties you owe him are fidelity and honest communication. Tell him in a respectful manner that it's not working and won't ever. Answer his awkward questions and part amicable terms.
blue260 Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 You are strong and you can survive this, but you have to make the final decision to let him go and commit to it. I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting and you deserve all the happiness in the world.
Toodaloo Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 For me I needed a "trigger". Something that finally tipped me over and made me do it. Find your trigger and get out. Best thing I ever did because as time goes by I find out more and realise that he was not the guy I had hoped he was. Sometimes you just have to sack up and do it. So get yourself into the right frame of mind and go for it.
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