Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Discovered today that the guy I was seeing for 6 months was cheating on me with a local girl who likes to take lots of selfie pictures for the last couple of months we were together... Guess that makes "closure" much easier. Lessons learnt today. 1. If they say they don't cheat or bring it up the likelihood is that they can't keep it in their pants... 2. My mother is far more astute with technology than I am. 3. Thank God I didn't let him move in 4. Its true that it does really take time to get to know someone... 7
Zahara Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 I'm sorry, Toodaloo. Ugh, cheaters. I know how it feels. At least you only invested 6 months in this clown and not a minute more. Yes, #4. I'm learning that too. 2
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 Its just... I don't know what to say really. Its all so crass the way its been rubbed in my face all over facebook and I had no idea. Oh well. I know that she is getting an emotionally screwed up guy who has an ex that likes to threaten him and behave really nastily (so now they have it plastered all over the place I am sure she will be getting nasty messages from her)... Load of other issues. He says he wants someone to stick by him through bad times and good but truth is he can't cope with bad times like a grown up and goes off getting drunk and stoned. Doesn't help though. Really doesn't help knowing that. Serves me right for actually having some sort of emotion and care for him. 2
Satu Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Sorry to hear about this. Take good care of yourself.
fred123 Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 U guys were " seeing each other" What does that mean? 1
GorillaTheater Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Sucks, Tood, and I'm sorry. It may be small consolation at the moment, but you know you're better off without this joker in your life. 1
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 Sucks, Tood, and I'm sorry. It may be small consolation at the moment, but you know you're better off without this joker in your life. Clowns to the left of me.. Jokers to the right, here I am stuck in the middle with you... That is a rhetorical "you" and includes everyone... I tell you it really does just make you wonder why you ever bother at all. I really need a drink... A stiff one that contains high quantities of brandy or gin... actually, to hell with it.. both... I also want to behave like a screaming heathen and go absolutely ballistic, screaming at him like a cross between a banshee and a fish mongers wife but with more choice language used. I want to cry, hit him and smash things... Instead I am being cool, calm and dignified... 6
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 U guys were " seeing each other" What does that mean? We were dating "exclusively" for 6 months with the intention of moving in together and eventually marriage. Make it plain and simple enough? At 6 months its just a fling I know. But its six months caring about someone who is in actual fact a complete and utter.... I don't think there are enough bleeps or stars to fit the swear words that would fit in here. So lets just call it waste of space. It being the operative word. Turns out "exclusivity" isn't always so exclusive. Unless you include the barmaid, the bricklayer, the local tart and the vicar... I know its been a couple of months since we split up but damn. To find out that, even now? It hurts. So glad I did it no matter how hard it was at the time. Also glad I didn't find out until now because if I had known then I think I would have ripped off his balls and mounted them on the wall. 2
Zahara Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 I also want to behave like a screaming heathen and go absolutely ballistic, screaming at him like a cross between a banshee and a fish mongers wife but with more choice language used. I want to cry, hit him and smash things... Instead I am being cool, calm and dignified... When I caught my clown having sex with some woman, I was cool, calm and collected. I don't know how I didn't kill someone that day! Scream, cry, break -- whatever you need to do. Just not at him. It would be wasted on a scumbag. 2
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 When I caught my clown having sex with some woman, I was cool, calm and collected. I don't know how I didn't kill someone that day! Scream, cry, break -- whatever you need to do. Just not at him. It would be wasted on a scumbag. I have a fresh bottle of brandy at home that I think will do the trick. I have also change his contact to cockhead on my phone. 6
DarrenB Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Hope you continue to recover and find someone compatible and suitable for you. Godspeed!
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 Hope you continue to recover and find someone compatible and suitable for you. Godspeed! I will recover I know this. But finding someone compatible? Right now I think I just want to stay on my own for the rest of my life because it sure as hell is easier and a damn sight lot more fun than this. Thank you for your support though. 1
jen1447 Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 So glad I did it no matter how hard it was at the time. Also glad I didn't find out until now because if I had known then I think I would have ripped off his balls and mounted them on the wall. It's never too late. 6
VeveCakes Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Sorry to hear this Tood....what a piece of scum....sending you hugs **
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 Sorry to hear this Tood....what a piece of scum....sending you hugs ** Thanks Veve. Its just such a shock. Never would I have said he would do that. Six months wasted on trash. I can't tell you how angry I am or how upset I am or how devastated I feel about it all. Its all jumbled at the moment. Hopefully it will be a bit more clear after a few brandies when I get home tonight.
VeveCakes Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Its just a terrible feeling knowing you were lied to and deceived....I hope the drinks help ease the pain... 2
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 Its just a terrible feeling knowing you were lied to and deceived....I hope the drinks help ease the pain... Thinking about it (because that is all I can do right now), this woman was shagging him while we were posting happy pictures of our holiday all over facebook? What the hell is that about? What sort of woman does that? Trash. Thats who. 1
Redhead14 Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Discovered today that the guy I was seeing for 6 months was cheating on me with a local girl who likes to take lots of selfie pictures for the last couple of months we were together... Guess that makes "closure" much easier. Lessons learnt today. 1. If they say they don't cheat or bring it up the likelihood is that they can't keep it in their pants... 2. My mother is far more astute with technology than I am. 3. Thank God I didn't let him move in 4. Its true that it does really take time to get to know someone... I'm so sorry, Toodaloo. It's only 6 months and it's just part of the process. You kinda have to learn to take it with a grain of salt and be glad it wasn't longer. And, I wouldn't start thinking about moving in with someone even if I felt like he was "the one" for at least a year. Even then, if you move in, you need to keep observing and managing expectations and evaluating and, in the back of your mind, prepared to end things if need be. Don't let this fester for too long. Do the grieving you need to do, but be resolved that you aren't going to give him that power over you. You don't want to carry this around like an albatross for the rest of your dating life. Don't waste anymore emotion/time on a piece of scum. He's not worth it. Be good to yourself and keep moving. I'll have a glass of brandy tonight with you in spirit
NuevoYorko Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 How disheartening. Obviously there were more reasons than you were aware of at the time to get rid of that loser. 2
Lansing Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 So you broke up for another reason and found out now after the breakup? Sorry, a bit confused about who broke up with who/etc and the timeline. Regardless, yeah, sucks when people aren't honest.
Author Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Author Posted October 12, 2016 And, I wouldn't start thinking about moving in with someone even if I felt like he was "the one" for at least a year. Hence why I didn't let him move in. So you broke up for another reason and found out now after the breakup? Sorry, a bit confused about who broke up with who/etc and the timeline. Regardless, yeah, sucks when people aren't honest. Dating six months. I broke up with him 2 months ago or there abouts. He has major issues with his ex, he was taking those issues out on me. He also gave me the silent treatment for no reason. Now turns out that he was shagging this tart for the last 2 months of our relationship. Well all I can think right now is that I am glad he is gone. To hell with it they deserve each other and if they think that screwed up mess they are in is happiness then wowsers this would be script worthy for Eastenders. I am calming down now but damn it hurts. 2
ChickiePops Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Ewwwww...I'm sorry Toodles. I have a friend with a very large knife and sword collection if you change your mind about the ball ripping and stapling idea. 3
l8estnews Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 I am good at making sushi!!!.. Balls Sushi anyone? Nevermind, the main ingredient turned out to be bad meat. 1
amaysngrace Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Maybe he will get warts from her and she can call him Toad. 1
BC1980 Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Its just such a shock. Never would I have said he would do that. My ex taught me to never say never. Hard lesson.
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