Author lovechunker Posted October 11, 2016 Author Posted October 11, 2016 @toodaloo thanks for the input. I agree. Looking back I felt like I could never please her and it stressed me out so much. Was affecting my work. I think I didn't want to break up because it makes me feel bad sticking her with a mortgage to pay but she was definitely trying to exert control over me.
Toodaloo Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 @toodaloo thanks for the input. I agree. Looking back I felt like I could never please her and it stressed me out so much. Was affecting my work. I think I didn't want to break up because it makes me feel bad sticking her with a mortgage to pay but she was definitely trying to exert control over me. If your name is not on the deeds then it is not your problem. She can get a room mate or something. Quit stressing, get out and relax. At least now you can see your friends which is usually my go to advice here!!!
fromheart Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Ok so here's the deal... I've been dating this girl for 7 months, and we just moved in together. She bought the place and now I'm sensing things going downhill. I feel like she walks all over my feelings, and intentionally sometimes. For instance, we're at dinner with a couple of her friends and we get on political topics. I proceed to get pommeled for expressing my opinions, and she joined in. I felt very betrayed by her. I showed up for the informal dinner 45 minutes late and she was super mad, so she responded by treating my like crap instead of explaining to me that she was mad. Then she says stuff like I was crying to my mom for an hour and a half to try to make me feel worse. This same day however, I told her very far in advance that I wanted to watch football with my friends from 3 until 7 and only got to leave to watch it at 345 because she made me paint with her and her mom. I'm think, listen I told you yesterday that I wanted to watch football, I never see my friends and they all think I'm dead because of this, and you decided to take 3 hours to pick up the paint so that I ended up running late to see my friends, but then you are pissed at me for running late to come home for dinner with your friends. I'm pretty sure we're about to break up because in my mind I think she's being insanely dramatic and I can't deal with this anymore. This is just one example. Someone please set me straight... It wont get any better, only worse with time. Get out now, the sooner the better!
Author lovechunker Posted December 15, 2016 Author Posted December 15, 2016 So this is long past due. Thanks for all the answers and support. Moved in with my bro in a sweet part of town. Feeling like I should have done this in the first place. Peace out homies (Y)
Arieswoman Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 lovechunker, I've been dating this girl for 7 months, and we just moved in together. Whooooaaaaah ! That's waaaaay too soon. At 7 months you haven't even scratched the surface of someone's personality and are still in that "loved-up" stage. As the pink fog clears, you will begin to realise that maybe you get on each other's nerves and aren't that compatible after all. I can't tell you what to do but you should definitely rethink this and have a serious talk with her. Good luck x
browzer Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Hope you learned from this experience and next time you meet a girl you'll take it slower. You don't know someone after 7 months, certainly not well enough to share your life with them. As you well know.
VeveCakes Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 @sharkbite0 lollol so funny about the following around not saying a word. Ya thats why I feel like I need to make a stand. She's trying to control everything I do and if I don't let her she puts up a huge fuss. I've literally heard her say before "that's how i get my way" feels good to type it out. I had like 10 weddings this summer and each one she did something progressively more annoying to start a fight and ruin the fun and then blame me. Pisses me off because these were all people i care about and now my memory of their weddings is tarnished by this. Thanks everyone for responses. yeah...that will never get better....glad you got out.
spiderowl Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 It could be testing-type behaviour, to see where you will draw the line, but there has to be some give and take in a relationship, things rarely run to timetables. You could draw a line and see how she takes it. She will be angry but will she get over that and respect the differences a little more or will she dump you? Hard to tell. Be prepared to be dumped if you stand up to her. It all depends what it is about for her.
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