TBGoat Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 (edited) So for starters, I've been broken up with my ex for 5 months or so. It wasn't a pretty ending but nonetheless it's in the past and we've both moved on. Well for a while now, her best friend had been liking all my Instagram posts and Facebook pictures, basic social media flirting. I thought nothing of it until she hit me up a few days ago, it seemed friendly at first but the conversation progreased. She basically confessed to me that she's been interested ever since she met me while I was with the ex. So after talking for a few days, I went over to her place yesterday where we hooked up and it was interesting to say the least. What came up though was that my ex still talks about me to her and actually told her to "go try and get with me." What makes this situation weird is that this isn't just her best friend, she's basically like her sister. They're super close and all of that. Now does this make me a bad person or her the bad friend? Was this a trap set by my ex to have something on her friend or on me? I'm not interested in dating really anyone at this point because I'm only 20 and in college, but I think the friend wants more than just casual hookups. What should I do? Edited October 10, 2016 by TBGoat
PegNosePete Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 I wouldn't over-think it. You're not interested in a relationship with her so if she asks, tell her that... or if it just fizzles out on its own, then just let it. No need to get worried or stressed about potential drama that might or might not happen if you were to date her. If you're not interested anyway, then just don't.
Redhead14 Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 So for starters, I've been broken up with my ex for 5 months or so. It wasn't a pretty ending but nonetheless it's in the past and we've both moved on. Well for a while now, her best friend had been liking all my Instagram posts and Facebook pictures, basic social media flirting. I thought nothing of it until she hit me up a few days ago, it seemed friendly at first but the conversation progreased. She basically confessed to me that she's been interested ever since she met me while I was with the ex. So after talking for a few days, I went over to her place yesterday where we hooked up and it was interesting to say the least. What came up though was that my ex still talks about me to her and actually told her to "go try and get with me." What makes this situation weird is that this isn't just her best friend, she's basically like her sister. They're super close and all of that. Now does this make me a bad person or her the bad friend? Was this a trap set by my ex to have something on her friend or on me? I'm not interested in dating really anyone at this point because I'm only 20 and in college, but I think the friend wants more than just casual hookups. What should I do? I'm not interested in dating really anyone at this point because I'm only 20 and in college -- Then you should listen to yourself and focus on your education. If they are that close, the ex has been sharing some things with her friend that you might be embarrassed about her knowing, etc. Take the high road/safe path and move on. Why set yourself up for possible drama? 1
Toodaloo Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 Congratulations your penis is now being compared... Don't worry about it just carry on with life and don't over think it. 1
ChickiePops Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 I'd be angrier at my best friend than I would at my ex if this happened... 1
Mr. Lucky Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 What came up though was that my ex still talks about me to her and actually told her to "go try and get with me." What makes this situation weird is that this isn't just her best friend, she's basically like her sister. They're super close and all of that. Sounds like everyone's been clear about their intentions. The friend had an interest in you, cleared it with your ex so there'd be no hurt feelings and acted on it. Up to you what happens from here, though be aware any interaction with the friend will be discussed with your ex... Mr. Lucky 1
ChickiePops Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 Sounds like everyone's been clear about their intentions. The friend had an interest in you, cleared it with your ex so there'd be no hurt feelings and acted on it. Up to you what happens from here, though be aware any interaction with the friend will be discussed with your ex... Mr. Lucky Oh I missed this. Well..if the friend truly did have permission then why on earth do you feel like a bad person? 2
Just a Guy Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Hi TB, in your place I would steer clear of anyone who is close to your ex. This may be a way for your ex to keep tabs on you and if she is still interested in what you do or don't do it means she probably still has feelings for you. You have'nt elaborated on why you had a fallout with your ex but if it was you who initiated the breakup then maybe your ex has'nt come to terms with it yet although outwardly, she seems to have moved on. Five months is not a long time and her feelings may still be strong and deep. If you are really over her and don't visualize getting back with her at some point in the future then just steer clear of her and all her friends and associates. Also block them on your social media platforms. Cheers.
sandylee1 Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 They're definetly comparing notes of your sexual performance. I wouldn't wanna be you.
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