sammi_jay Posted July 9, 2005 Posted July 9, 2005 all you guys out there If you believed that you had caught your g/f cheating on you and didnt believe a word she said when she tried to defend herself, would you still be speaking to her? If i thought i'd found my boyf cheating on me, i would want absolutely nothing to do with him, no contact wot so ever so why is my boyf (now x) being ok with me, initially he wasnt but has been last few days. Could it be he is starting to believe i told him the truth ?
GOSSMAN Posted July 9, 2005 Posted July 9, 2005 he doesnt believe your lies but he still wants to sleep with you
Marshbear Posted July 9, 2005 Posted July 9, 2005 Depends on how much he likes you and wants to believe you. If your story is plausible then he might convince himself to give you another chance. How long have you been dating? He might also just want to keep the relationship for sex until he finds someone else.
RecordProducer Posted July 9, 2005 Posted July 9, 2005 Don't listen to them! I know, I am a woman, but if he loved you before he didn't just stop loving you over night. If he doesn't have a proof that you cheated then he is probably considering the possibility to believe your words. I think the more you show him how much you love him the more he will believe you as we're not likely to cheat on people we're in love with. If his love was not so strong before, it's possible that he is only after sex. But if you know he was in love then he might be just weak in front of you, and still never trust you again. Why'd you cheat on him if you love him so much? Aren't you with him for romantic reasons?
Author sammi_jay Posted July 9, 2005 Author Posted July 9, 2005 i truly never cheated on him, a male freind of mine however made sure it looked like that, He knew how i felt about my boyf and how happy i was with him and maybe i was stupid and naive to stay mates with this guy but i've always had male and female friends, I trust people too easily it would seem. The guy who was a friend was someone i hadnt seen in almost 3yrs, but bumped into him online late last yr, we just caught up on there and kept intouch every now and then. He was in my area the other eve as was having a night out and rang after i had gone home, as i've not seen him in yrs i allowed him to pop over for an hour. To me there was nothin in it as i truly thought we had a mutual friendship, as he was drunk i let him sleep on my sofa, i went to bed and pretty much passed out (had drinks earlier with my friends) the guy voilated my trust as when i woke up he was in my bed!!! asleep. my boyf walked in. I even left my front door open hoping my boyf would see me inthe morn as i'd rang him that night to ask him to come over as i'd had a panic attack when i was out which was why i went home early. I cant say that he loved me as i loved him, he isnt the type of guy that shows his feelings but we have been through alot together, i've confided in him with personal stuff that took alot of courage but i guess he just didnt trust me. People can keep tellin me i shouldnt have been friends with this guy but if he were gay then there would be no issue, however i dont lie so told my boyf the truth, the guy did too....eventually! I had even told my boyf about the guy that day as he'd rang me for the first time ever. I loved my boyf very much and couldnt possibly cheat on him, its just not who i am. I truly believe this guy did wot alot of guys do when they are drunk, woke up not knowin where he was, went the loo then just went to bed but maybe i am too trusting of him, i cant believe he would do it on purpose to me, he has never shown any interest in me other than as a mate. If i hadnt been drinkin that night then i would have heard him get in my bed but i had so was totally out of it. I know how it looks to my boyf but if he trusted me he should atleast try to consider that wot i have told him is true. this whole incident has completely knocked my trust in guys. If my boyf really believed i did this then i find it hard that he has been more than civil toward me the past few days and he is definately not after sex
Drivetildriven Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 He might have considered that is anger at you is not worth loosing you.
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