Should we get back together after breaking up? [UPDATE: Ex girlfriend deleted me...]

[js_77]

We broke up last week and a few days ago she suddenly came to my place crying, we barely talked because she was crying a lot and we didn't make any decision that day. Two days after I told her we should talk and it was better to talk in a restaurant, we went there and talked about the reasons why we broke up like my jealousy that made us fighting a lot for over a year, I don't trust her, her being bipolar and hot and cold with me, that she wanted children and get married and I wasn't ready,etc.

Anyway we had a great talk but we had our disagreements, we had our dinner and after that we came to my place to talk more but I thought to myself "Maybe we should sleep, I'm tired, she's a little drunk, tomorrow we can talk again!" And we did it, but instead of just sleep we had an amazing sex and now I don't know what to do!

Should I try again? If we break up she would think "He just wanted to use me for sex and now is dumping me?"

What I should do? I'm feeling so confused right now!

[ExpatInItaly]

We broke up last week and a few days ago she suddenly came to my place crying, we barely talked because she was crying a lot and we didn't make any decision that day. Two days after I told her we should talk and it was better to talk in a restaurant, we went there and talked about the reasons why we broke up like my jealousy that made us fighting a lot for over a year, I don't trust her, her being bipolar and hot and cold with me, that she wanted children and get married and I wasn't ready,etc.

Anyway we had a great talk but we had our disagreements, we had our dinner and after that we came to my place to talk more but I thought to myself "Maybe we should sleep, I'm tired, she's a little drunk, tomorrow we can talk again!" And we did it, but instead of just sleep we had an amazing sex and now I don't know what to do!

Should I try again? If we break up she would think "He just wanted to use me for sex and now is dumping me?"

What I should do? I'm feeling so confused right now!

 

I don't see why you would want to try again, given all the above.

[js_77]

We've been dating for 1.5 years and the first time we broke up was over a fight we had, a few days later she came to my place, we talked and got back together.

 

 

Fast forward now I'm thinking about breaking up "again" for real as I'm very unhappy!

 

 

I am feeling very confused, we've been fighting a lot. I dont trust her and her sexual past bothers me, she had sex with my cousin in the past before we met.

 

 

I don't want to get married, don't want kids. I'm divorced, she's 35 with no kids and has been twice divorced (red flag), she's manipulative, she's bipolar and has depression issues.

 

 

She has her exes one night stands, hookups and FWBs as friends on facebook, instagram and whatsapp! Her pets are annoying! Anyway I'm tired, feeling no strength!

 

 

Anyway how should I break up? Where should I go? Should I have this conversation in public? She's very emotional and depressive, she'll cry a lot! Is it a good idea we have this conversation in my place? Need advice folks. thanks!

 

 

Thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend for the second time, I'm done, I can't stand anymore! Need advice how should I do?

[Sweetfish]

We've been dating for 1.5 years and the first time we broke up was over a fight we had, a few days later she came to my place, we talked and got back together.

 

 

Fast forward now I'm thinking about breaking up "again" for real as I'm very unhappy!

 

 

I am feeling very confused, we've been fighting a lot. I dont trust her and her sexual past bothers me, she had sex with my cousin in the past before we met.

 

 

I don't want to get married, don't want kids. I'm divorced, she's 35 with no kids and has been twice divorced (red flag), she's manipulative, she's bipolar and has depression issues.

 

 

She has her exes one night stands, hookups and FWBs as friends on facebook, instagram and whatsapp! Her pets are annoying! Anyway I'm tired, feeling no strength!

 

 

Anyway how should I break up? Where should I go? Should I have this conversation in public? She's very emotional and depressive, she'll cry a lot! Is it a good idea we have this conversation in my place? Need advice folks. thanks!

 

 

Thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend for the second time, I'm done, I can't stand anymore! Need advice how should I do?

 

Why would you stay with someone you don't trust... good lord.

[bubbaganoosh]

Breaking up in a public place in my opinion is a crappy thing to do. This is a serious situation and very personal.

 

My advice is go to her place, sit her down and tell her how you feel. Granted she's going to be hurt or mad or both but something like this is for her ears only. No one says it will be easy but sometimes doing things the right was can also be the hard way. Good luck

[js_77]

We broke up three months ago and now she found out I'm seeing other girl and she deleted me from every social media, whatsapp, etc! Why she did this? I did nothing wrong, we broke up so I'm free to do whatever I want with my life!

[JamesM]

We broke up three months ago and now she found out I'm seeing other girl and she deleted me from every social media, whatsapp, etc! Why she did this? I did nothing wrong, we broke up so I'm free to do whatever I want with my life!

 

Why does it matter?

 

She is free to do whatever she wants with her life too, and it seems she is willing to let you have your freedom without her around.

 

This should be a good thing.

[DarrenB]

we broke up so I'm free to do whatever I want with my life!

 

That statement is true, but it also applies for her. You are seeing a new girl 3 months later, that's your choice. She's deleted you off social media, that's her choice.

 

Let bygones be bygones (minus the reconciliation)

[Sweetfish]

We broke up three months ago and now she found out I'm seeing other girl and she deleted me from every social media, whatsapp, etc! Why she did this? I did nothing wrong, we broke up so I'm free to do whatever I want with my life!

 

 

This happens very often. I would ignore it and focus on you.

[preraph]

You shouldn't be spying on each other anyway if you're trying to move on. You break up to get away from someone who is making you unhappy, so she found social media with you was still annoying, and snap, she hit the button. Just move on.

[Purepony]

What planet do you live in ?!

She can do whatever she wants she's free like you remember ?

[JamesM]

Putting the two threads together made this even more confusing.

 

Break up and move on.