LTR of 5 years just going to sh*t..pregnant w/ our 2nd child..don't know what to do!

[SexiiPinkLadii]

I have been with my boyfriend since 2000. We met when I was 14. I'll be 20 in September. I'm getting so tired of everything. We've always had like..issues in our relationship. Fights over stupid, petty things..jealousy..etc. We break up often, and he moves out. I always let him back in however. I do love him. But I'm getting to the point where I just think things are never going to get better. We have our good moments, moments that make me think that we could make it work. Then the next day, things are shi**y again. He has a TERRIBLE temper, and I don't want our daughter to grow up around yelling. Not to mention I am 5 1/2 months pregnant with our second child. He hardly ever shows me affection. He hardly ever hugs or kisses me. He is emotionally, like, shut off from me. Our sex life is WAY different than what it used to be. When we were younger, we were having sex 6-12 times a week. After I got pregnant with my daughter, we began having sex only 2-3 times a week. Now we have sex in intervals. One week, we won't have sex at all. The next week, we'll have sex 2 or 3 times. Then we won't have sex for two weeks. I hate the way I am living. I feel like he really doesn't love me sometimes. I don't know if it's aggravated by the fact that I'm pregnant or not, but I am craving someone to just HOLD me, and tell me I'm beautiful (the way he used to do EVERY day, but never does now). If anyone knows anything to help our relationship get better, please let me know. I have tried talking to him and he acts like nothing's wrong. I really would like to try and salvage our relationship, because I do love him, and also because we are going to have 2 children together. PLEASE HELP!

[tiki]

Originally posted by SexiiPinkLadii

I have been with my boyfriend since 2000. We met when I was 14. I'll be 20 in September. I'm getting so tired of everything. We've always had like..issues in our relationship. Fights over stupid, petty things..jealousy..etc. We break up often, and he moves out. I always let him back in however. I do love him. But I'm getting to the point where I just think things are never going to get better. We have our good moments, moments that make me think that we could make it work. Then the next day, things are shi**y again. He has a TERRIBLE temper, and I don't want our daughter to grow up around yelling. Not to mention I am 5 1/2 months pregnant with our second child. He hardly ever shows me affection. He hardly ever hugs or kisses me. He is emotionally, like, shut off from me. Our sex life is WAY different than what it used to be. When we were younger, we were having sex 6-12 times a week. After I got pregnant with my daughter, we began having sex only 2-3 times a week. Now we have sex in intervals. One week, we won't have sex at all. The next week, we'll have sex 2 or 3 times. Then we won't have sex for two weeks. I hate the way I am living. I feel like he really doesn't love me sometimes. I don't know if it's aggravated by the fact that I'm pregnant or not, but I am craving someone to just HOLD me, and tell me I'm beautiful (the way he used to do EVERY day, but never does now). If anyone knows anything to help our relationship get better, please let me know. I have tried talking to him and he acts like nothing's wrong. I really would like to try and salvage our relationship, because I do love him, and also because we are going to have 2 children together. PLEASE HELP!

 

I heard that if you get married, it solves everything. KIDDING!

 

At least you're smart enough to know when enough is enough. I don't blame you, I wouldn't want my child/ren around it either!

 

Is he physically abusive? Is he verbally abusive?

 

The sex thing is totally normal. Your needs change in a relationship. You two are committed on an emotional level, not so much just a physical level. Continue to attempt to keep one another satisfied if you can. Date, do romantic things for one another. Learn to love again. Lovingyou.com has got some great ideas on how to be romantic. Learn to romance.

 

Have a talk with him. Sit down and really heart2heart with him. Tell him you're almost to the point of no return. Be honest and hopefully he will be too.

 

With the kids, have the two of you considered attending church together? I know this has helped a lot of people, some being my close friends.

 

He needs to work on the relationship if he ever wants to own a slice of the American dream. But you guys have both got to be willing!