ashaya Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 Hey everyone, A girl broke things off with me, and she said even though she felt the same about me, her anxiety was so bad she couldn't even be in a casual relationship. She kept trying to tell me I wanted a serious relationship even though I told her otherwise. I didn't really believe it and I asked her to be straight with me, ad she implored me to believe her - I didn't want to be paranoid or untrusting and so just went along with it. She then immediately blew me off, and got together with someone shortly afterwards. When I hit her up about it, she said "oh but it's not a relationship, and I've told you everything". Am I justified in being annoyed with her about this, or do I just need to toughen up and move on? I just feel that you show someone respect by being honest with them...and i felt really embarrased and disrespected afterwards. Cheers
Ace of Pace Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 People are rarely straight when they break things off because they don't want to hurt the other's feelings. I think you should accept it as that and move on. 2
lana-banana Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 No one is completely honest when ending a relationship. Could you imagine? "I'm sorry, I know we've been together for ten months and all and it's been great, but yesterday I met the girl I know I'm going to marry." "You're a nice guy, but you text like a thirteen-year-old girl." "You're not really good in bed and I stayed hoping that it'd get better, but it didn't and I'm fed up." There is a time and place for lies in civilized society. The only words that matter in a breakup are "I don't want to be with you anymore". Those are the words we have to accept and honor, while shutting our ears to whatever load of nonsense may follow. 5
jen1447 Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 I agree w you about respect and honesty - there's little to no respect if you get some obvious fabrication as an excuse. And usually lies and half-truths are told for the benefit of the teller. So in that sense you're justified in being offended, but on the other hand you can see pretty clearly what you're dealing with here - someone who doesn't hold you in high esteem - so that's pretty good reason to feel much the same about her. 2
sharkbite0 Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 you asked if you were justified. In my opinion, the answer to this question is completely irrelevent. Even if you are justified, it doesn't make it easier. She is doing other things, other people have come into her life. Put her on the back burner and focus on your life......again. Back to square one, sorry to say. However I will say this, I'm right there with ya! good luck!
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