Should I tell him?

[shl1997]

Hello,

 

I am dating this amazingly attractive man from India and he has been a wonderful partner thus far. Always respectful, very charming, and knows how to take a joke. We have started to get very serious with each other but there is something he doesn't know about me that I'm trying to decide whether to tell him about.

 

Most of the time when we are video chatting I tend to be very quiet. He is okay with this and claims that he has fun no matter what, but I worry that eventually he could get bored. I am very, very, slightly autistic and because of that I have a bit of social anxiety, and I'm awful at starting/carrying conversations. I get so anxious about it because I don't want to lose him as he is the man of my dreams.

 

My family members that know about it think it is no need for him to know, but at the same time I feel like I'm hiding a part of me and since we are getting pretty serious it makes me wonder if he deserves to know about that about me. I can't decide whether it would be a good decision or not. Any help would be appreciated!

[Ami1uwant]

Why are you anxious when you talk to him?

 

Why not share with him this condition you have so he understands rather than misunderstand ??

[smackie9]

Tell him but also send him articles explaining what it is and that it's not something to fear.

[joseb]

How long are you two together?

Do you get anxious in person. Or only when video chatting?

 

I imagine if it was a real problem he would have noticed by now if you two are pretty serious

[Arieswoman]

OP,

You are overthinking this.

 

Lot's of people have social anxiety when they are dating.

 

Relax.

 

Have you actually met this person IRL ?

[preraph]

You should tell him that when you are sometimes awkward or quiet for no good reason, that it's because you are slightly autistic and that he shouldn't think it's anything he's done. You might refer him to a good article on autism so he understands better. Good luck.