confusedandabused Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 ok...i met this woman on a dating site....but she was living with another guy...i found this out later...the hard way...after reading her dad's obituary...and seeing the guy's name. so i looked him up...there he was...with her. so i asked her about it. she soon after, after a few weeks, moved out...into her mom's house after i asked her to. but since being there, things dont really improve....only thing is, she has a tighter grip on me, making it hard to leave her.....i know "leave her" doesn't really apply, since we havent physically met yet. we spend all night talking to eachother a lot...but the creepy thing is...only a week into our communication, before even hearing my voice...she said i was her best friend, and she could tell me anything. she told me about skype, she has sent me flirty pics early into the game, and i sent some back....things got intensely hot way too fast (since we havent met yet). i am saving to go and meet her...she lives up in canada....i am in the states. the guy that she was living with, she says her whole family can't stand him, but yet....her mom allows him to stay overnight whenever he is there...drunk every single time. we video chat a lot, she often leaves the camera, for at least an hour at a time, and i feel kinda abandoned. she says she has no plans of going back to him, but his check is going directly into her account, and she spends it on a regular basis. he even GIVES her money. she drinks with him sometimes when he is there....he gives her rides, she goes shopping for him....usualy coming back drunk and emotional, blaming it on me....so i kinda have an issue with her drinking...and being with this guy so much. every time we are talking and he is there...she HAS to go and talk to him and get him something to eat....at least an hour each time. he is old enough to be her father. she left her first husband for him....he was a veteran.....old enough to be her grandfather....while he was dying in the hospital. i try to overlook these things, and trust her, but my instincts wont let me. my heart is attached to her, but my gut is trying to steer me clear of her. she has said to me we were spending to much time together, and we should take some time off....so i said OK....but then she said she was wrong....and begged me not to go. why all the mixed messages? i know that what i see online is only what she wants me to see...but i see her online a lot. but there is time she spends OFFLINE too. i dont know whether this is love, or the two of us enjoying eachother's company and having a hard time going without it. but i do know this....i make her a priority....i dont recall her ever doing the same for me. what do i do? if this is fake, how can i make her tired and bored of me?
JewelD Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 I think you need to nip this one in the bud. You haven't actually met so things are not official. She's clearly still in a relationship with this man. I don't think you need to try to make her tired and bored with you. Just stop talking to her and move on.
Author confusedandabused Posted October 8, 2016 Author Posted October 8, 2016 i just told her......she was spending more time fixing HIS cellphone for him....not even acknowledging i was even there....so i told her i was gonna go since she was "trying to waste time, cause i'm bored" ....she hasnt talked to me all day...first thing she asked....hours ago "did you miss me?"..........so i told her i'm gonna go. she didnt seem too emotionally affected by it. "if you wanna go....go....all i can tell ya"........almost no emotion in her voice at all.
Author confusedandabused Posted October 8, 2016 Author Posted October 8, 2016 I think you need to nip this one in the bud. You haven't actually met so things are not official. She's clearly still in a relationship with this man. I don't think you need to try to make her tired and bored with you. Just stop talking to her and move on. i just told her......she was spending more time fixing HIS cellphone for him....not even acknowledging i was even there....so i told her i was gonna go since she was "trying to waste time, cause i'm bored" ....she hasnt talked to me all day...first thing she asked....hours ago "did you miss me?"..........so i told her i'm gonna go. she didnt seem too emotionally affected by it. "if you wanna go....go....all i can tell ya"........almost no emotion in her voice at all.............sorry if you got this message twice..i'm new to this site
JewelD Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 Well at least now you know the truth. She wasn't really invested either way or she wouldn't be so nonchalant about you deciding to cut things off.
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