MightyHeracross Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 So some background... Im 22 (M) and she is two years younger. Ive known her for probably close to 10 years, and I've known Ive liked her ever since then. I have never come out and said this to her, but she's not stupid and has probably picked up on the fact based on how shy and quiet I am around her. I don't know how girls know, but it seems like they always do. It has always seemed like she has a similar crush on me when we see each other in person (drops verbal hints and displays a majority of the "signs"), but it is the complete opposite when we text or snapchat, as she comes off as beyond uninterested. So for the current situation... Aside from a random snapchat here and there, we haven't really talked in a good few months. Basically, Ill get a random snapchat from her, usually reply, and generally she doesn't reply. Or, ill send her a random snapchat, and she will reply about 30% of the time, if that. With texting, I usua.ly have to be the one to start the conversations, and she will respond 99.9% of the time, but I usually can't keep them going very long, nor do I try to just have a conversation (its usually asking or telling her something specific, not just "hey whats up?"). I am always worried I will bother someone when texting or talking to them, so I rarely just text someone for the sake of having a conversation. So, seeing as I don't have like a specific question or something to start talking to her, I just don't ever text her. I will send her a random snapchat basically to make sure she doesn't forget me, but thats it. So knowing all of this, how would you guys start a conversation with her? Thanks guys
LD1990 Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 Text her and ask her out. Don't waste time with pointless text conversations - no man in the history of earth has made a woman fall in love with him through his witty text messages. Ask her to come with you for drinks, coffee, a day at the beach, whatever. If she likes you, she'll want to go out with you. If she doesn't, she won't.
basil67 Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 hehe - it wouldn't even occur to me that a guy who's shy and quiet around me may have been interested. My advice is brutal. If you're shy and quiet around her, you've got no hope. If conversations with you aren't easy and enjoyable, why would she want a repeat experience? Gather up your courage and talk with her in the same way you'd talk with any other person. Given that her interest level seems low at present, it's not like you've got much to lose, so you may as well go out with conversation. Anyway, given that the social media interactions between the two of you are a fail, face to face is your other option. Do you ever see her face to face?
Author MightyHeracross Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 Text her and ask her out. Don't waste time with pointless text conversations - no man in the history of earth has made a woman fall in love with him through his witty text messages. Ask her to come with you for drinks, coffee, a day at the beach, whatever. If she likes you, she'll want to go out with you. If she doesn't, she won't. I completely agree. However, don't you think a random "hey lets hang out" text is too out of the blue?
Author MightyHeracross Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 hehe - it wouldn't even occur to me that a guy who's shy and quiet around me may have been interested. My advice is brutal. If you're shy and quiet around her, you've got no hope. If conversations with you aren't easy and enjoyable, why would she want a repeat experience? Gather up your courage and talk with her in the same way you'd talk with any other person. Given that her interest level seems low at present, it's not like you've got much to lose, so you may as well go out with conversation. Anyway, given that the social media interactions between the two of you are a fail, face to face is your other option. Do you ever see her face to face? I mean, its like Im a little kid who has a first crush. You can always tell by the way he acts that he likes the girl. He acts squeamish, quiet, etc. and its kind of a dead giveaway. Maybe thats just how it looks from my POV cause I beat myself up over little **** like that, but still. We have a great time in person. Im quiet and shy in general, it just gets worse around her. I try to push myself tho. But she does seem like she enjoys it when we are together. That being said, no, we unfortunately never see each other. We are going to universities about an hour away from each other, but we are both back home (10-15 mins from each other) during breaks, certain weekends, etc.
LD1990 Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 I completely agree. However, don't you think a random "hey lets hang out" text is too out of the blue? Not at all. "Hey, I'm going to (a beach/an arcade/a kinky sex shop/whatever would be fun for both of you) Thursday around 7, you should come!" If she's at all interested in you and is free, she'll come. It's not like she'll think "well, I really like him, but this text came out of nowhere so I'll say no." Don't overthink it and don't spend too much time planning out the perfect strategy to ask a girl out. You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take.
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