BlueEyesAndTall Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 Hello all Desperately need some advice and I'm sure people on here can hopefully helpguide me through a problem. I was in a 7 month relationship within the last year and for the most part everything was good. We rarely fought, enjoyed each others company and even had a good physical side to the relationship. Anyways 7 months in we took a trip and the relationship completely fell off the rails. She had lots of anxiety and I was really excited and for whatever reason it blew up suddenly. No big fight but we ended up having 6 months of no contact. In the last month we've started talking on a daily basis really good discussions about us and life in general. Here is where I need help. She keeps saying she just wants to be friends but I want to get back to where we were and I'm okay with the idea of taking it slow but I don't want to be just friends. Should I shut it down again or can it play out and eventually things might change where she wants to be more then friends? Please help. Thanks
mikeylo Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 Tell her you are being a friend but don't act like a friend That's the only way I would creep back.
road Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 Tell her you do not want a friend but you want a girlfriend.
joseb Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 If you want her back as a gf then don't do the friends thing. Personally, if I split up with someone then there is a reason. And i won't want to go back to it. Are you sure that's what you want?
maxalton Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 If you want her back as a gf then don't do the friends thing. Personally, if I split up with someone then there is a reason. And i won't want to go back to it. Are you sure that's what you want? I disagree with the common belief that "an ex is an ex for a reason." Sure, there could be plenty of logical reasons not to go back depending on the circumstances. But what if you got dumped for being a needy beta-male and the boomerang comes back around (days, weeks, months, or years later) and you get that second chance with the person whom you were kicking yourself for screwing things up with? If you've changed in that time and realized your faults, and became less of a beta male and more of a confident and masculine man, I don't see why you wouldn't take that opportunity.
maxalton Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 The best way to reignite things with an old flame is to show progress. Ladies are really impressed when you better yourself in some way. She already broke up with you once, why date you again? Now, if you suddenly have a better job, or you are hitting the gym, look better, earn a degree, something like that, she will likely be drawn to you. Or even, acting more like an alpha male and less like a beta male
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