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How would you react if the person you were dating texted you, "I have a problem?"

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1Jessie86 Established Member

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I texted that to a guy today in order to add dramatic effect alluding to the message that followed and he completely flipped out. How would you react receiving a text message like that? I wouldn't mind, I would just be anxious to find out what they're talking about. Next time I'll definitely make sure to be straight to the point.

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Id assume something had gone wrong for them and ask "what's up?". Also, if it's only a text message, I wouldn't assume the problem was anything major.

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I need more context:

 

What do you mean when you say he flipped out? And what was your problem? Is adding dramatic effect something you do often?

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Well as most people I know and I would send that if we were stuck at the pub and needed a lift back or if we were struggling to pick between a blueberry or chocolate muffin, or that one of us has wind and an important meeting...

 

It wouldn't freak me out. I would just ask what the problem was and go from there. I would be expecting something funny to be going down.

 

A typical discussion with my family and friends would be

a. I have a problem

b. Whats up?

a. I have run out of duck tape and I can't get this air horn to stick under so and sos' desk chair...

 

The people in my life and I tend to be very direct so if they have a real problem that they need help with it would be a phone call or they would get to the point.

 

If someone is the sort to be sending a text like that for drama's sake they wouldn't be in my life for very long... Just can't be doing with it.

 

Going down a zip wire is dramatic and exciting... Creating drama and problems for the sake of it is just dull and tedious...

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preraph Established Member

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If you've had sex with him, he'd assume you were pregnant. Guys don't want women who lead with their problems, I can tell you that.

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Someone I dated used to do the whole 'for dramatics' statements and IRL could see him waiting for some major reaction from me. I didn't give one.

It bores the pants off me when someone says something for a reaction.

Just go ahead and say it is my view.

I don't want to have to fawn all over a guy for him to come out with something that usually isn't that big of a deal.

 

What was your problem OP?

Was it serious?

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sandylee1 Established Member

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I'd reply and say "what's up?"

 

If it turned out to be nothing much I'd be a bit ticked off and make a mental note not to worry if I received a text like that in the future.

 

Why the need for drama?

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If I found out you texted that just to add drama I would break up. No one needs that kind of neediness in their life.

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Redhead14 Established Member

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I texted that to a guy today in order to add dramatic effect alluding to the message that followed and he completely flipped out. How would you react receiving a text message like that? I wouldn't mind, I would just be anxious to find out what they're talking about. Next time I'll definitely make sure to be straight to the point.

 

to add dramatic effect -- What are you complaining about? You wanted dramatic effect . . . you got it.

 

I wouldn't mind -- Yeah, just wait til you have children and you get a message like that . . .

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Lansing Established Member

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I don't like people that waste my time. Instead of saying "I have a problem" how about just coming out and saying what the issue is. You even admitted yourself you did it for "dramatic" effect. You aren't writing a novel, you are communicating with someone you are dating. I would be annoyed too especially if you did this type of thing before.

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joseb Established Member

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If early stages of dating?

Unless this was some kind of in joke that we played,

I would realise I had been dating a drama queen, and move on. It's only going to get worse.

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Space Ritual Established Member

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If I am communicating with someone that " I have a problem", I'm either in jail again or constipated, probably both..lol

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I really don't like it when ppl do that w the intent of holding you hostage w suspense. Like they think just floating a statement like that and nothing else will make me think "OH my GOD! What is it?!?!?" Bc if you actually had a problem most likely you'd just say what it is instead of declare you had one.

 

It depends a lot on my mood and your history too, like if it's not a habit and I'm not crabby I'll prob play ball, but if you do it a lot and I'm not feeling the drama I'll cut thru the crap and put an end to it.

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Beating around the bush is annoying to me. I would expect the person I was dating to just SAY whatever the problem is.

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