DC77 Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 I looked at his Facebook page and I'm not sure I liked what I saw. Would you say something?? ... We've been dating for two months now. We are compatible on so many levels and he treats me well. But he is a bit younger than me, 29, and we definitely have some maturity differences. I have to be extra patient and guiding at times. On his Facebook, he has a cover pic that says 'I like big booty bitches.' I realize that's probably the age thing. He certainly doesn't act like that around me or treat me with disrespect. Treats me like a princess actually. What is under my skin are the few girls in his top 9, which means either they communicate or they visit each other's pages often, that are so desperate for attention that they feel it necessary to continuously post underwear or body shots. I don't respect this and I don't associate with people like this. I'm disappointed that he has these girls, not just randomly in his friends, but in his top friends. Like I said, we've only been dating two months and it's probably not my business. But I'm not comfortable with it either. Not sure how I want to handle this one. Should I talk to him about it?
Miss Spider Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 Red flags. Would not proceed. You can talk to him about it but I doubt it will do much more than make him feel lectured cause he's immature (he sounds more 19) and about that stuff. If he is worth it to you, try. 3
elaine567 Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 Unless you want to be his "big booty *****", then I guess he is NOT the man for you. “When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” ~Maya Angelou YOU have now found out, who he really is. 2
JewelD Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 this is the first time you've looked at his page in 2 months? It's his fb page, there's not much you can say about it. That's what he likes. He should probably be representing himself better on social media but take it for what it is and do what you feel is right. 1
basil67 Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 I have to be extra patient and guiding at times. This bothered me before you even got to the FB thing. Unless you want to be a man's mother, date a guy who's your equal. 3
Zahara Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 (edited) Talk to him about it? I bet you're hoping you can "guide" him to behave the way you want him to? You either accept him for who he is or you move on. The fact that you even mention that you have to be extra patient and guiding at times is indicative that you both are on very different pages. It's actually a turn off -- you're not his mother. Date a guy that is on the same page -- not a kid. Treating you like a princess isn't the only thing you should be looking for in a relationship. Edited October 7, 2016 by Zahara 3
SammySammy Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 You can talk to him, but I don't think it is going to help. It's hard to change that mentality in the men or the women. They say birds of a feather flock together. Ducks are going to be ducks. You don't fit in this flock, so you need to find a flock ... and a mate ... like you. 3
Gloria25 Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 Sorry, IMO, there's nothing to talk about...he is who he is. In this day/age where a prospective and/or current employer will scrutinize what you have on your Fakebook, he blatantly puts that on there? He doesn't seem that bright either. And yea, lots of skanky females as his "friends" on Fakebook? Nah, tell him have a nice life. If you wanna be nice, let him know you saw his Fakebook and don't wanna be with a guy like that. Maybe that'll help him grow up. 2
Gemma1 Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 I don't think it's possible for an intelligent, decent human being to have that as a cover photo on their Facebook. It's just not possible. Sorry. And I mean at ANY age. 2
joseb Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 I normally say Facebook is irrelevant, and just ignore it. But sorry, yeah if that is his page then I can't imagine the owner being any kind of decent guy. It's not an age thing. He's 29, not 13. Are you sure it's his page, and it hasn't been hacked or messed with by someone? Are you a Facebook friend?
newheart Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 I looked at his Facebook page and I'm not sure I liked what I saw. Would you say something?? ... We've been dating for two months now. We are compatible on so many levels and he treats me well. But he is a bit younger than me, 29, and we definitely have some maturity differences. I have to be extra patient and guiding at times. On his Facebook, he has a cover pic that says 'I like big booty bitches.' I realize that's probably the age thing. He certainly doesn't act like that around me or treat me with disrespect. Treats me like a princess actually. What is under my skin are the few girls in his top 9, which means either they communicate or they visit each other's pages often, that are so desperate for attention that they feel it necessary to continuously post underwear or body shots. I don't respect this and I don't associate with people like this. I'm disappointed that he has these girls, not just randomly in his friends, but in his top friends. Like I said, we've only been dating two months and it's probably not my business. But I'm not comfortable with it either. Not sure how I want to handle this one. Should I talk to him about it? The phrase I bolded above would concern me. You don't want to end up being his mom ... so if you already felt that way, plus saw that on his FB page, I would move on. Of course, some people may find it humorous, but it would bother me.
smackie9 Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 Come on......is this really someone you want to have a serious relationship with??? Give your head a shake. Move on and find better.
Recommended Posts