crrogers Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I have been dating a guy for approximately 2 months. We see each other approximately once/week. He is very depressed because he has recently taken a cut in pay and is consequently barely solvent. When I went to his house the other night, he was very tired and almost dozing off. About 12 AM I received a call saying my mom had just slipped into a coma and her prognosis was guarded. Although half asleep, he heard this call come in. When I heard the news, I went numb. He briefly woke from his sleep, rubbed my leg for approximately 5 secs and said something like "It will be ok." and returned to sleep. I kept on receiving calls from the hospital as my mother's condition was updated. At most he woke once more and said "It will be ok" and went back to sleep. I left to fly home ASAP and received a call from him the next day saying "I am sorry I wasn't there for you; I was just so wiped out." He promised to call me the next day about my mom (before I went to bed) but fell asleep again. Is this break up worthy in your opinion? Does the apology mitigate what he did?
lvgrly Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 ahhh..No, I wouldnt say it is.. He is undergoing alot of stress himself, and so are you..When in a relationship those 2 dont go hand in hand.. At least he woke up enough to say it.
Rosalind Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 In view of the circumstances - I don't see where he did anything horribly wrong. What are your expectations of this guy?...it's only been 2 months. So sorry about your mom
clandestinidad Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I understand it really hurt you that he wasnt there for you Yeah, it was a pretty crappy reaction on his part...but he realized that and apologized (i'm assuming he realized that on his own, without you having to explain it to him????) I agree w/ the others, that he's under stress too and probably a little depressed himself (men tend to take these money things more personally than we do) I say let it go, since he said how sorry he was, and see how things pan out. In the meantime, do some cheap, fun things together...make him dinner at his house or something. If he doesnt feel monetary pressure right now, he'll be more likely to emotionally support you On the other hand, I'm very sorry to hear about your mother, and I hope things are alright. Have you posted more about that?? We're all here for you
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