Can't get my girlfriend to fall for me heads over heels

[chelsea95]

I'll begin by telling about us. I'm almost 20 years, fairly attractive, most of the girls have a crush on me and I've almost always been lucky and dated any girl I wanted. My girlfriend is 16 years old and im her first actual boyfriend. Now I know you guys will say *she's too young, you're too much older than her* but there are no such rules in my country. Older girls date for money only so thats one of the reasons im dating her. The only reason I started dating her was because she was pretty cute, a virgin and she's nothing like other girls. By other girls I mean she doesn't talk to every other guy she sees, she's not an attention seeker and she's real to the core ( people are so fake these days ) , she only has about 2-3 guy friends who she rarely even talks to, she keeps her self reserved. She even stopped talking to few of her guy friends just because i didn't like it and I told her not to, she could still do it behind my back but she still didn't. She always listens to what I have to say and these are the reasons why I love her so much.

it's almost 1 year since we started dating, the problem is she is kind of egoistic ( not much ) but all the girls I dated previously always fell for me crazily but she plays her cards right. She also doesn't say sweet things as much and she's not clingy at all. She never let me have sex with her, I've just touched her body and we kind of had phone sex on call but she's so bad at it Anyways lately I've been asking for her nudes to spice up the relationship but she still hasn't sent me even tho I have just to make her feel more comfortable. Things like these piss me off. I sometimes ignore her and stuff if I'm busy without letting her know that I am, girls love the chase and **** even if it gets them mad. Anyway I believe that if a girl is madly in love with you there wouldn't be any ego, she'd trust me enough to send me her nudes even if she's scared just because of love just to prove me or do other sweet things out of love for me so how can I get her to fall madly for me? Should I start treating her badly and act like I don't care? ( I don't want to do that ) I mean I do things unintentionally that piss her off and makes her question the relationship as being nice all the time isn't a good thing, all girls get bored if the guy is too nice. I do so much for her but never got as much in return or maybe I'm just being selfish? Just guide me guys.

[SoulCat]

Oh boy, you have got a lot to learn about women....

 

First of all, you cannot 'make' anybody fall in love with you. They do or they don't.

It helps if you treat them right and you leave a lot to be desired there.

 

You come across as quite controlling, telling who she can and can't talk to.

And ignoring her when you don't get her way is incredibly immature.

 

'Girls' do generally not like the chase and **** (whatever that is). They like to be treated as a person, with respect.

That means if she doesn't want to have sex with you or send you nude pics, you have to respect that. Respect her boundaries, her decisions, her opinions.

 

She wasn't put on this earth to please you you know, even though you seem to be under the impression you're a bit of a stud-muffin.

Calling her egotistic is just laughable.

 

And all that is aside from the fact she's only 16, and you're 19. Sorry, almost 20.

 

From the way you come across in your post, I hope she soon realises she can do a heck of a lot better than your self centred, entitled a$$.

[SammySammy]

If women in your country only date for money and this girl won't fall head over heels for you, then that must mean you don't have enough money.

 

Go make so more money and get back to her. See if she changes her mind.

[stillafool]

She is smart not to send you nudes. She is not going to be with you forever and I wouldn't trust you that those nudes would fall into the wrong hands.

[Shanex]

Duh.

 

Nobody is going to fall for you if you try so hard. Quit making demands, I did receive a few (half) nudes (or half clothed) pics from women I respected, and who trusted me for never sharing them with anyone, nevermind what could go wrong afterwards.

 

Good for you if it's legal in whatever country you're in. However younger girl doesn't mean gullible, she's rightly cautious about you.

[chelsea95]

Thank you! You feel me mate and yeah you're right I should be greatful.