guild11 Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 (edited) Hey guys, I really love my girlfriend but for many reasons I came to conclusion that she isn't the right person for me. She is 27 and I'm 26. It seems that I do everything in my power to make her life easier but she is doing the opposite, We already talk about it and she said she will try hard to change but it didn't last long, it's her personality I can't blame her. She says she loves me always, but it's always just words and no action. We already had a big once and I seriously got tired dealing with her, it took me a whole hour to spill it out and say "I'm leaving", it was a shock for her and she started crying and asking me "why why why?" And didn't let me take my stuff. It was really hard for me to see her like this and I didn't left, I stayed with her. I kinda can't imagine myself without her but I know she isn't the one, how I will handle the situation if I'll tell her it's over for the second time ? Edited October 7, 2016 by guild11
Kelley Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 Break ups hurt like hell, they really do. If you are the one instigating it or the one on the receiving end. But life is short and if you don't believe this girl is for you, then you have to let her go so she can eventually find the one she is meant for. She will obviously be devastated, I am at the moment after my break-up but you just have to learn to move on. I would just explain, be firm and go from there, it's not going to be pretty, just make sure you are 100% sure it's what you want before you put her through it. Good luck.
Toodaloo Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 You have spoken to her and her actions still do not match the words. You have tried to leave and she has held your belongings ransom. So here is what you do. You quietly pack up your things over the next few times you are there (I assume you do not live together) and remove them to a safe place. You steadily keep taking your belongings back until there is nothing there. Then you tell her face to face that you are not compatible long term and that you do not wish to continue to be in a relationship with her. Then you walk out of the door and you do not look back. Sometimes it takes a while but you cover your back while you walk away. 1
kgal785 Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 I’m sorry to hear about the ending of you relationship. Relationships are hard work and it is difficult to leave someone when you have invested so much time and still care deeply for them. If you truly feel as though she is not the one, do you think it would cause more harm to both of you to stay together because you do not want hurt her? Break-ups are painful, but being honest usually helps with the process. I hope things work out for the best for the both of you.
stillafool Posted October 13, 2016 Posted October 13, 2016 Be sure to explain to her why you are breaking it off because that will be her closure. After you leave go strict NC with her so she can heal. Don't go back and forth with her because that will cause her to hold out hope that you will come back. It is painful to hurt someone we love but you are doing the right thing to end it if you know this isn't the woman you want to marry.
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