Poppy47 Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 I met a lovely guy on a dating website and we agree to meet and see how things would progress. There is a lot in common... both widowed, about the same age, share some interests. It went quite well going out casually, for about 6 weeks, until I recently travelled overseas for 3 weeks. On my return, he insisted that I come to his place for dinner, which I did and enjoyed. The next week , same thing only he asked me to stay... I did ,as it is a long drive home. We didn't sleep together, although he asked. I found I had no attraction to him at all when he kissed me. Yesterday we had dinner with his friends and on the way back he told me they approved of me. It made me very cross to think they had discussed me. I suppose it was a normal thing for them to do but approve of me for what??? I am feeling trapped as he is always planning something for me and him to do. This isn't working out for me. There is no physical attraction on my part and he is proving to be very clingy. I don't know how to end this as I find I don't want to get anymore involved with him. Never slept with him or had anything more than a kiss here and there. Face to face break up? Advice please. Poppy
ExpatInItaly Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 I realize this is probably a moot point, but I think you are completely over-reacting at him talking to his family and friends about you. It's not unusual to want to update our loved ones about an exciting new prospect. I believe he was trying to compliment you and say that they like you - you misinterpreted what he meant by saying they "approve." Having said that, I think it upset you because you're not into him and you seem generally irritated by him. If it were a man you really liked, I suspect your reaction to that would have been quite different and that you would like hearing that they see a good woman in you. Tell him that you don't feel you are a good match and that you need to stop seeing each other. Wish him well and close this chapter. 3
Kelley Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 As the above post stated if you had been into him, you wouldn't be annoyed and thinking he is clingy. You would have a nice feeling that this man is making an effort and likes you. He likes you that is obvious and if you don't feel the same way, you need to tell him. Give him the decency of a face to face chat. 1
Author Poppy47 Posted October 7, 2016 Author Posted October 7, 2016 I realize this is probably a moot point, but I think you are completely over-reacting at him talking to his family and friends about you. It's not unusual to want to update our loved ones about an exciting new prospect. I believe he was trying to compliment you and say that they like you - you misinterpreted what he meant by saying they "approve." Having said that, I think it upset you because you're not into him and you seem generally irritated by him. If it were a man you really liked, I suspect your reaction to that would have been quite different and that you would like hearing that they see a good woman in you. Tell him that you don't feel you are a good match and that you need to stop seeing each other. Wish him well and close this chapter. Thanks for your advice. I am widowed after a long happy marriage and starting out again at an older age with zilch experience of dating. I do remember how it feels to be into somebody and it's not like that with him. Poppy.
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