heartbroken56 Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 I got out of a relationship in June with a really wonderful guy. We dated for almost a year, the issue is that I don't think I was every in love with him. Maybe only the idea of him. We ended on decent terms and I'm happy to not be sad. But weirdly enough, I just found out that a previous ex of mine (first boy I ever dated seriously) is dating someone.... and it's been on my mind!!! It's not that I'm jealous, it's that I've just been reminiscing on all the times we've had together. Both good and bad. It has almost felt like flashbacks. This boy hasn't had a girlfriend since our relationship ended years ago so while I'm happy for him, I've had him and this girl in my mind for days! Why is it that I'm not thinking about a recent relationship that ended and remembering a boy that hasn't been in my life in over 2 years? Over the last 2 years we have spoken here and there....But weirdly enough over the years he kept adding me/deleting me off of social media. I never understood what the hidden meaning to that was. Anyways, does this mean I still have feelings for this boy? Or am I just remembering a past relationship for some odd reason?
JewelD Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 Well you weren't in love with your most recent ex so that explains why you're not super hung up on that. Sounds like you had stronger feelings for your previous ex and seeing him with this new girl is bringing up old feelings. It doesn't necessarily mean you still like him now. It may just be a blow to your ego to see that he has found someone else.
Just a Guy Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 Hi Heartbroken, firstly why have you used this particular moniker? I get the impression that you are feeling a bit sad that a new girl has taken your place with a boy for whom you had some genuine feelings. Maybe you were thinking subconsciously, that since he didn't have a girlfriend for so long, that he was waiting for you but now, having got tired of waiting he had got himself a new girlfriend in lieu of you and that thought makes you sad. Fact is that boy was your first love and as these things go, the residual feelings, like it or not, will always be stronger than in any subsequent relationship you may have had. The emotions you invested in your SO then were pure, crystal clear and unsullied by any previous bad experiences. All subsequent relationships would have carried baggage. As such that first love will always be special to you which is why it has come back to haunt you. Just a thought. Hope it helps in some way. Cheers.
Author heartbroken56 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 Yeah, I actually had to block him off of all social media because I was finding myself looking at him and his new GF and it was driving me up a wall. This last week, I just kept having flashbacks of him and I. I know I will always care for him in a way and so I didn't want to keep hurting by thinking about him and this new girl.
Author heartbroken56 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 Also as too why I have this name... my first post on this website was actually a little over 2 years ago and it was when I was dealing with this particular breakup with this boy that has the new gf now.
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