what456 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 have u ever been in a long distance relationship, broke up with the person and then got back together?
lvgrly Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Depending on what the breakup was for I think would be the first consideration. But yeah I have.
Author what456 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 even in a long distance relationship? would you get back with someone after a year being in a long distance relationship? do you think they can work?
lvgrly Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Like I said, It just depends on what the break up was for..But yeah LDR's are worth a second chance..But, what was the breakup for??
Author what456 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 well, I broke up with my ex boyfriend because he was still hung up on his ex. i broke up with him twice because i know i don't deserve to be second in anyone's life. anyways, we maintained contact...but had a fall-out this past weekend-a really bad one. he said some really harsh things but at the same time says he still has feelings for me. i am NOT going to call him back because i am done chasing him. but, i still love him...and he knows that ...
VirginiaBob Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I was in an LDR for 2 years. She dumped me. Later begged for me back. I took her back but did not trust her with my heart anymore since she dumped me. I dumped her.
lvgrly Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Sounds like to me you guys need to meet in the middle...You are never going to get anywhere with him lashing out, and you not calling... You guys need to talk it out, and if nothing comes out of it, then at least its talked out...Here this is what I posted to someone else about this.. From my experiences or what I know from second chances, It either makes the relationship better or worse than it was the first time.. Most of the time that I have gotten back with someone, it was always worse..Just because there are still some unresolved issues from the first time we were together.. Just as long as you remember that a break, or the ending of a relationship does not mean all of your problems with that person go away, they are just put to the back burner.. So I guess what I am trying to say, is if you have ANYTHING unresolved with him you might want to do that BEFORE you get into something else with him..
lvgrly Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Distance is as close or as far as you want it to be..It just depends on your closeness with that person...How far away a person is should not affect the decision of being with them.
Author what456 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 i agree with you. it was wierd how things came about the last time i saw him. he was like our relationship is done--it is what it is. he actually said that to me two weeks ago...but his actions seemed like he wanted more and to see me more. when i left him all that changed... i am not sure..maybe it's really over because he was rude to me..but at the same time he keeps telling me he has feelings for me...i think i should let him go..and he says no one else is in the picture... i don't know..i will be seeing him in another two weeks at a wedding. i am so scared i don't even know how to act! lvgrly, you are really sweet with your advice. thank-you
Cupcake Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I have also been in an LDR before. Before giving it a second chance, you MUST resolve the original issues. Couples therapy is a good idea. If either of you are not willing to accept and deal with the original issues, eventually, they will resurface the second time around. In your case, you should definately consider the reasons you broke up. If those issues still exist, you need to move on and forget about the second chance. Did you break up over the distance or not being able to see each other often? Or was it some other serious issue? If it was because of the distance that you broke up, and the two of you still live far apart, a second would not work, unless the two of you have decided that seeing each other often is no longer neccesary. Do you see what I mean by this??!!
lvgrly Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by what456 lvgrly, you are really sweet with your advice. thank-you Thanks..I bet other people would disagree..
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by lvgrly Thanks..I bet other people would disagree.. Sometime! LOL I am in a LDR as we speak. According to him I can't get anymore wonderful than I already am! But were 2 hours away from each other. We see each other every weekend and during the week talk on the phone. It's good like that cause we can do our think during the week and have a wonderful weekend together. LDR's are tough. TRUST TRUST TRUST. If that's not there, then what's the point? Good luck.
Author what456 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 That's great! I don't think I will ever hear from him based on our last conversation. and i am not going to call him because i don't want to look anymore desperate then i already have. i have chased him for a long time now and i am tired of it. if he wants me he will call me if not then good-bye. like i said, i will see him at the end of this month. i am really scared! i don't know how to even act.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by what456 That's great! I don't think I will ever hear from him based on our last conversation. and i am not going to call him because i don't want to look anymore desperate then i already have. i have chased him for a long time now and i am tired of it. if he wants me he will call me if not then good-bye. Good, I;m glad you have that kind of attitude. Now all you have to do is stick to it and your as good as gold! like i said, i will see him at the end of this month. i am really scared! i don't know how to even act. Nonchalant (sp) Act like your great and having the time of your life.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by lvgrly sometimes eh? I'm just jerkin your chain! Luv ya girl!
Author what456 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 oh yeah! and to top things off i sent my stupid ex a present in the mail for his birthday before our fall out. i feel so stupid now! i dont know if i should call him or text him for his b-day or just let it go..what do you all think?
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by what456 oh yeah! and to top things off i sent my stupid ex a present in the mail for his birthday before our fall out. i feel so stupid now! i don't know if i should call him or text him for his b-day or just let it go..what do you all think? \\ Did he receive it before or after the break up? If he received it before then don't do anything. Plus, I think that says happy birthday anyway. Don't contact him. Why do you think people are so obsessed with No Contact here on LS? B/C IT WORKS! Be strong sweetie. If you were happy before him, you will be happy after him!
VirginiaBob Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 hehe, I bought this really expensive digital camera ($500) for a girl one time and she broke up with me 3 days before her birthday when I was going to give it to her. Stupid girl.
Author what456 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 I sent it to him before we stopped talking to each other but he will get it next week. we didn't break up or anything we just kept in touch and our relationship was in the middle we weren't together....or anything but we still talked like we were together.
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