Broke up with my girlfriend 3 weeks ago. Really regretting it.

[MoonRocks]

Oh my. Well. We met up and slept together Sunday evening. I got up to leave afterwards, and she said something along the lines of, "this casual sex seems so drastic, I'm not sure we should be doing this." I agreed, told her it was for the best if we didn't speak or see each other for a while unless she was interested in making a commitment, she seemed to agree, we hugged and I left. I was really sad that it came to this, but realistically I couldn't do the casual thing either.

 

Flash forward to this week where she is texting me 4 or 5 times a day, about random things going on in her life. I have been only responding to one of these a day, and keeping my response very brief so as not to encourage. But she keeps going. Is this just the classic breadcrumbs thing or could she possibly be having thoughts of taking me back? I feel after we hooked up for the first time last week, I kind of went overboard in initiating our meetings when maybe it was best for me to just back off and let her miss me. Maybe that wouldn't have mattered?

[MoonRocks]

I feel like such an idiot asking these questions online when I know roughly how the mind of a young lady works. Normally I would say of course she is just keeping me on the back burner in case her new thing doesn't work out. I guess I'm asking again, if it's possible, if there is any precedent in the idea that this girl really just needs time and space to decide what she wants given the circumstanes?

[Popsicle]

I'm about as cynical as it gets when it comes to this stuff, but sometimes I think what I did that night might just have been uncaring enough to really shake her faith in me. She comes from a background of a lot of trauma and abandonment, and I left her in the middle of a really trying time. I dunno. She was absolutely crushed the next day, I know that much.

 

This is the issue. I can relate because my ex-BF did the same thing except I have chosen not to stay in low contact (even tho he wants to) and drag it out. I'm too hurt and it's over.

[MoonRocks]

I messed up so bad. I would post my reasons for leaving that night, but really, it doesn't matter.

 

So, considering the fact that she's came around enough to sleep with me multiple times. And initiates contact with me via text everyday, what do you think? Would I be insane to wait for her to possibly come around? Do girls ever come back around?

[MoonRocks]

Reading back through my old posts on this and holy cow, I really deserve no more replies on this. The writing is all on the wall here, I'm just somehow thinking my circumstances make it different.