yellowsocks Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 Just need some opinions on my breakup. We had been seeing each other for about 9 months and everything was going great. We had met each others parents over dinner and our kids had met. Suddenly, one day she started texting me less and less. She said that she wanted some time to herself. Then she just ended it out of nowhere. Never to my face... she did this all via text. She had some stuff at my house and I had her pick it up while I was at work so we didn't have to talk to each other. I wasn't in a good place to see her again so it was just easier. I started no contact and was easily into the 35th day when what would have been our anniversary came up. She messaged me viciously telling me that she remembered the day but that we would never be together again. I didn't understand why and I probably shouldn't have responded. Since then, she's been messaging me strangely here and there... sometimes chit chat, sometimes more serious. I asked her to meet with me and she declined. We never talk about our former relationship though. Now, I know she is seeing someone new and I am seeing someone new. I have a blog that I write in and discuss my day to day activities but I always make sure never to discuss her or my personal life on it. I know she reads it... sometimes up to 12 times a day. I'm just wondering what the hell she's doing. Yes, I love her and want nothing more than to be with her... but if she's not going to reciprocate, I want to move on. Any ideas what this woman is up to? Any thoughts or advice is appreciated. Thanks.
Zahara Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 It's because she has you on a leash. She enjoys knowing you are hooked. Great ego boost for her. End it with the new person. Awfully selfish to drag someone who may be 100% in when you are still longing to be with your ex. 1
Author yellowsocks Posted October 6, 2016 Author Posted October 6, 2016 You're right. I'm meeting with the new girl tonight to explain what's going on in my head to make sure she's treated properly because she's really an awesome girl and I don't want to hurt her. So she's got me on a leash? Probably right but why would she even care if she's with someone else? Why is anything I do of interest to her?
Alamo657 Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 Just need some opinions on my breakup. We had been seeing each other for about 9 months and everything was going great. We had met each others parents over dinner and our kids had met. Suddenly, one day she started texting me less and less. She said that she wanted some time to herself. Then she just ended it out of nowhere. Never to my face... she did this all via text. She had some stuff at my house and I had her pick it up while I was at work so we didn't have to talk to each other. I wasn't in a good place to see her again so it was just easier. I started no contact and was easily into the 35th day when what would have been our anniversary came up. She messaged me viciously telling me that she remembered the day but that we would never be together again. I didn't understand why and I probably shouldn't have responded. Since then, she's been messaging me strangely here and there... sometimes chit chat, sometimes more serious. I asked her to meet with me and she declined. We never talk about our former relationship though. Now, I know she is seeing someone new and I am seeing someone new. I have a blog that I write in and discuss my day to day activities but I always make sure never to discuss her or my personal life on it. I know she reads it... sometimes up to 12 times a day. I'm just wondering what the hell she's doing. Yes, I love her and want nothing more than to be with her... but if she's not going to reciprocate, I want to move on. Any ideas what this woman is up to? Any thoughts or advice is appreciated. Thanks. Like many women, she enjoys having a fan club of men who desire her but can't have her (or not seriously anyway). She plays and toys with them just to feel desired, important, valuable, meaningful. Those people have attachement issues, childhood traumas, and always end up hurting people. They only repeat what was done to them. She's toxic, block her everywhere you can, and move on. 2
Zahara Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 You're right. I'm meeting with the new girl tonight to explain what's going on in my head to make sure she's treated properly because she's really an awesome girl and I don't want to hurt her. So she's got me on a leash? Probably right but why would she even care if she's with someone else? Why is anything I do of interest to her? It's because some people thrive on attention. It's an ego boost. It's nice knowing that an ex glorifies her. She gets a kick knowing you're wanting her. She's the kind who doesn't want you but doesn't want you to move on from her. Reading your blog is just based on curiosity and her need to be in control. 1
BluesPower Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 Let me get this straight. You guys went out for 9 months and she ghosted you and then starts texting you. You feel like you love her and want to be with her. Dude, she was cheating on you and did not even have the decency to breakup to your face. Why in gods name would you want to be with her. I don't want to be too harsh, but have some self respect. She is sadistically playing with you like and cat and a field mouse. Ghost her and go NC with everything, end of story. 2
VeveCakes Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 Google intermittent relationship.... get away, far far away.
Author yellowsocks Posted October 6, 2016 Author Posted October 6, 2016 Well said. I agree with you completely. I've just blocked her from here to eternity. I guess I'm still wondering why anyone would waste their time, you know? Thanks everyone.
Zahara Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 Well said. I agree with you completely. I've just blocked her from here to eternity. I guess I'm still wondering why anyone would waste their time, you know? Thanks everyone. It's not wasting time when you inflate her ego.
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