Aquaman83 Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 I met this woman on Happn, a dating app that people you cross paths. We live in an urban area and she lives in the city next to me (2 miles away) We had a lot in common, and I found her very attractive. We setup a date, and I asked for her number. She told me lets meet up first and see.... During the date, it was good - maybe not as much laughter I would like... But I was nervous and maybe she was? - no big deal. It was good convo. I noticed we had 1 drink each, and a couple little things to eat. Started at 730-10ish) I paid the bill, and we sat and talked for 30 mins or so. Then she said she was getting tired. - So I said alright lets go.. We were right by the train where I can take home or I can call an uber. During the walk over, she kind of guided me to follow - if that makes sense and ended up walking her home.. she kept leaning toward me and being close as we walk.. I get to her place, and the number thing rosed up and she explained why. Due to crazy guys handing out her number and etc.... So she said I can have it, and I told her I was surprised... I didn't think... and she said because i was said tired... I told her in my experience its usually not a good thing and laughed about it... She was being cheeky and thats when I went in and kissed her... Then we talked a little more. And had a short make out/ french kiss and she pulled away with a deep stare and said have a good a night. She responded to my text later when we exchange numbers and we talked a little bit. Then off to bed. I like the girl.. I would like to see her again (said that last night) just prior to the # thing came up. I am tied up tonight, tomorrow helping my brother move, and saturday she is having a hurricane party with her gay roommate and all his guy friends. So I do not know when to ask her out again? any suggestions? and convo afterwards, Its hit or miss with women... if you dont talk to them for 2 days they assume you lost interest.. and then if you talk to them every day - they may be turned off.. 1
losangelena Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 Suggest Sunday. Don't overthink talking. Just check in and see how she responds. Do what feels natural.
smackie9 Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 (edited) Ask her out for lunch....Sunday sounds like a good day like the above poster said. Anywho it is my experience a very interested guy would ask me out at the end of the date and being interested I had np saying yes. Remember this next time. Edited October 6, 2016 by smackie9
Author Aquaman83 Posted October 6, 2016 Author Posted October 6, 2016 I made it clear that I want to see her again. Given i am busy the next two days, and she is busy saturday; I thought it was too soon to ask. I also want sometime, to review the date; I have gone out and that night thought it was great and next day; was not that into it.. and I have experienced vice versa as well; or they weren't interested but said yes the night before. I figure let them sleep on it, and ask them out the following day or 2nd date after the date.
strawberryshortstack Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 I made it clear that I want to see her again. Given i am busy the next two days, and she is busy saturday; I thought it was too soon to ask. I also want sometime, to review the date; I have gone out and that night thought it was great and next day; was not that into it.. and I have experienced vice versa as well; or they weren't interested but said yes the night before. I figure let them sleep on it, and ask them out the following day or 2nd date after the date. I was once out on a date with a guy, that I thought went very well. The guy made it clear that he wanted to see me again at the end of the date, and again later that night via text, but he didn't make a set date. I never heard from him again. If you truly want to see her again, set the next date as soon as you can. It doesn't have to be for tonight, tomorrow, or even Sunday. Just get it set so that you, and she, have another date to look forward to.
GemmaUK Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 Sunday lunch sounds a great idea and you can find somewhere you could go for a walk or something after. If she agrees then talk to her about contact - ask her! Actually be open and say you'd be cool with several texts a day but as we all know they can get a bit dull and it can be better to catch up via a call or face to face. They can also interrupt your life if you're both over eager in the beginning and text 50 times or more a day. Say that she has a life and responsibilities and you respect that and that in these times of texting/social media and all that you like her enough to ask and find out how she feels about it. I would absolutely love a guy to ask me this instead of being either way way too aloof or bombarding me. Times have changed and everyone is supposed to be at the end of an internet or phone line 24/7 these days. But - your date where you think you were both shy (and she did clearly open up later - and all was good) then she may not be so into the whole texting/media bit so much and I kinda get the vibe you aren't too much either. Sounds like you had a good date though! But yep - go for Sunday - I hope she is free.
alwaysgrow Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 You're right - sometimes too much is read into the conversations and their timings. I think we're all in agreement here, though - go ahead and ask her out. It sounds like you like her, and she likes you. Sunday lunch sounds great!
Author Aquaman83 Posted October 6, 2016 Author Posted October 6, 2016 I asked her out today, later in the morning. She said this weekend? and I told her friday, and she suggested saturday. Got tied up at work, and told her i would text her later with details. got to see if this is a sat night or day date =P 1
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