I need some suggestions

[RobertWilliams12]

Hi.

I am 25 years old guy. I have a pretty good job, and i am very outgoing person. I had to many relationships in my life, also had one for 4 years, but since a year i am single. After i broke up with my ex i thought that i never gonna like someone else. After breakup i meet a lot of girls, but nothing serious happen with any of them.

This summer i meet this girl, that lives in another country, and she's the cousin of my best friend. I somehow knew her before, but i never met her in a person.

So this summer, me and my friends(and her) went all together for some vacations in a sea, and since the first time that i saw her, i kinda feel something.

So we were together for 3-4 days there, and i was complimenting her everyday, and making her feel very good, we were doing together a bit of flirting but nothing serious, just i was feeling amazing, when i was with her those days, it was something special apart other girls that i know. I was doing crazy things and special things for her, treating her very good there, and she was always smiling and giving me the eye contact most of the time.

So, after a week she went back in her country, and i added her on facebook. We started talking, mostly everyday, but i still don't know if she likes me or not. She also gives me compliments, but not those compliments that everygirl gives to me, i still don't know if she really likes me lol. I was still doing some "crazy" stuff for her, i was with some of my friends, in one big resort in Italy, so it was a big concert there, and i told to an DJ, to shout out her name in front of a lot of people, so i recorded that and i sent to her lol. Another day, i found her address where she works, and i sent a big bouquet of flowers, with a nice message inside.

Before two weeks, i told her that i'm gonna reserve a special trip in a luxury hotel in Santorini for me and her, but she said that she doesn't want. As i said i am very good in my financial life, and i also meet a lot of gold diggers in my life, and when she said no to me, it gives me more special place to put her in my heart( since i knew, that she doesn't want my money).

I decided last week to ask her directly if she likes me or not, but she was just letting my words " seen " haha. She told me one day, that i am very good in every way, but she doesn't want to have nothing, since i am best friend of her cousin.

Last week, we were talking, and she was ignoring me one of those days, so i told her to do me one favor, and not to text me back.

I kinda feel bad now, because i am not one of these guys who does these things, but i did it, just to know if she's gonna text me again( to really see if she likes me ) And now its being a week, and still no contact!. I am still meeting other girls, but i don't know why i have her still on my mind, and what its drives me crazy, its because i think for her, even when i am with other girls!.

I hope that i'm gonna have any suggestion, how to get her! haha, and sorry for my english, its not my first language

[LD1990]

It's time to give up on this one, she has made it pretty clear she isn't attracted to you.

 

You made the typical nice guy mistake - coming on way too strong with gestures to make her like you, while never actually making any sort of move on her. In the future, forget all the over-the-top gestures you see in romantic comedies and focus on escalating things physically.

 

Telling her not to text you back makes you look like a weakling who can't even control who he texts. It was a silly thing to ask, but at least you've got total confirmation that she isn't interested.

[RobertWilliams12]

It's time to give up on this one, she has made it pretty clear she isn't attracted to you.

 

You made the typical nice guy mistake - coming on way too strong with gestures to make her like you, while never actually making any sort of move on her. In the future, forget all the over-the-top gestures you see in romantic comedies and focus on escalating things physically.

 

Telling her not to text you back makes you look like a weakling who can't even control who he texts. It was a silly thing to ask, but at least you've got total confirmation that she isn't interested.

 

I didn't want to win her with showing her that i can give something to her that not plenty of guys can give. We were talking for 2 months, and i kinda made also the physically connection, telling about myself, and she telling me for her life..

[scooby-philly]

Hey OP,

 

Not sure where to begin. Assuming that English is not your first language since you said it.... i will try to be simple.

 

Anyone with a decent job can buy a woman things. I've been a "sugar daddy" to a certain extent to fwbs, lady-friends, and even had 1 year+ relationship where I was too kind to someone who was never appreciative.

 

 

 

 

I am 25 years old guy. I have a pretty good job, and i am very outgoing person. I had to many relationships in my life, also had one for 4 years, but since a year i am single.

 

Experience counts - but only so much. If you never handled a snake before it doesn't matter if your 25 or 75.

 

After i broke up with my ex i thought that i never gonna like someone else. After breakup i meet a lot of girls, but nothing serious happen with any of them.

That happens a lot. Our dating lives ebb and flow.

 

This summer i meet this girl, that lives in another country, and she's the cousin of my best friend. I somehow knew her before, but i never met her in a person.

To be blunt....what were you expecting? Do you think she's going to leave her country for you?

So this summer, me and my friends(and her) went all together for some vacations in a sea, and since the first time that i saw her, i kinda feel something.

So we were together for 3-4 days there, and i was complimenting her everyday, and making her feel very good, we were doing together a bit of flirting but nothing serious, just i was feeling amazing, when i was with her those days, it was something special apart other girls that i know.

Those are all great feelings. BUt in the future, keep in mind the reality.Nothing wrong with short-term flings or fantasies - but don't go dropping dollars on people you can't have a relationship with

I was doing crazy things and special things for her, treating her very good there, and she was always smiling and giving me the eye contact most of the time.

So, after a week she went back in her country, and i added her on facebook. We started talking, mostly everyday, but i still don't know if she likes me or not. She also gives me compliments, but not those compliments that everygirl gives to me, i still don't know if she really likes me lol. I was still doing some "crazy" stuff for her, i was with some of my friends, in one big resort in Italy, so it was a big concert there, and i told to an DJ, to shout out her name in front of a lot of people, so i recorded that and i sent to her lol. Another day, i found her address where she works, and i sent a big bouquet of flowers, with a nice message inside.

Before two weeks, i told her that i'm gonna reserve a special trip in a luxury hotel in Santorini for me and her, but she said that she doesn't want. As i said i am very good in my financial life, and i also meet a lot of gold diggers in my life, and when she said no to me, it gives me more special place to put her in my heart( since i knew, that she doesn't want my money).

I decided last week to ask her directly if she likes me or not, but she was just letting my words " seen " haha. She told me one day, that i am very good in every way, but she doesn't want to have nothing, since i am best friend of her cousin.

Last week, we were talking, and she was ignoring me one of those days, so i told her to do me one favor, and not to text me back.

I kinda feel bad now, because i am not one of these guys who does these things, but i did it, just to know if she's gonna text me again( to really see if she likes me ) And now its being a week, and still no contact!. I am still meeting other girls, but i don't know why i have her still on my mind, and what its drives me crazy, its because i think for her, even when i am with other girls!.

 

Forbidden fruit, or people we can't have can drive us crazy.....just keep repeating to yourself....she's in another country and she's not interested in me (or she is but for some reason she "can't" in her mind)

[RobertWilliams12]

Just a little update

Yesterday she wrote to me after more than 1 week of no contact. She just wrote to see how am i doing, and then i started again to flirt with her, i dont know i never can stop while she writes to me, it happens just with her. Right now we are talking, but again nothing seriously, i still don't really know if she's into me or not

[basil67]

Robert, I hate to state the obvious but she lives in another country. Have you considered that she may prefer to have a relationship with a man who she can see regularly?

 

Would you be willing to move to her country to be with her?

[RobertWilliams12]

Robert, I hate to state the obvious but she lives in another country. Have you considered that she may prefer to have a relationship with a man who she can see regularly?

 

Would you be willing to move to her country to be with her?

 

Thanks for an answer. The country its not a problem, she is from my nation, and she told me that she would love to be with someone from same nation. Also we are not that far, 1hr far with a plane.

My problem is, that i have this feeling ,to flirt all the time with her, everytime that we talk, i dont even know why, i do this with all other womens, and i don't get rejected, but with her, i dont know, she just doesn't play my game haha. But she still writes to me now.

[smackie9]

You are friend zoned. She gave you a passive excuse but it's pretty clear she saying "not interested". Your feelings are clouding your perception. She still talks to you because she is ok being a friend.

[GemmaUK]

Hi.

She told me one day, that i am very good in every way, but she doesn't want to have nothing, since i am best friend of her cousin.

 

The is the part you need to listen to.

She isn't interested.