JS17 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 at 27, i'm familiar with just about everything to do with dating except second chances. when i break up with someone, or they break up with me, it's OVER. now for the first time i'm thinking about getting back together with someone i dated briefly. I'll try to make my story short..... I had a really bad break up with my ex in January. At the end of March I met someone online, which i had never done before. We met in person at the end of April and clicked immediately. We went out through May and hit a bumpy patch in the middle of June. I think that I just moved too fast emotionally and physically. He was kind of a jerk about it but apologized. We thought about working things out but I think I just needed some space and didn't realize it so I broke up with him. Within a week I did the rebound thing. Now a few weeks later I'm thinking about getting back together with the guy I dated this spring, I realize how good we are together but I would need to take things slow. I also don't know if he's open to just friendship or dating again. How often do these second chances work? I haven't been through it before and I'm wondering if I'm just setting myself up for disappointment.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 How often do these second chances work? I haven't been through it before and I'm wondering if I'm just setting myself up for disappointment. Several couples close to me have made second chances work - one after a period of several years. The trick is to review what caused the break-up and resolve it. Don't do this on the first date, but once it starts to get serious again.
Jaime03 Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Would he be willing to give you a second chance? That is the question. I have in the past broken up with men and realized I wanted him back and how I know things will be different and then they didnt want to get back together. If he does want to start over then in my experience it is even better. The second time you go in knowing what to do and you have that to your advantage. The only way you are setting your self up for dissapointment is if he doesnt want to. Besides that you said you got along...every couple goes through hard times and people say things they do not mean. I think you should go for it, if you don't you will always wonder.
country gal Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 i'm with romeo on this one ... and its certainly worth a shot, just be sure to be upfront with him in terms of your needs (taking it slow, etc). if he's serious, he'll work with you on it.
Marshbear Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 this dude is looooong gone Your're such a card JS..... I THINK YOU REALLY ARE BITTER......
Author JS17 Posted July 29, 2005 Author Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear Your're such a card JS..... someone's got to liven things up around here or i won't have anything to do at work all day. I THINK YOU REALLY ARE BITTER...... i'm coming around
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear I THINK YOU REALLY ARE BITTER...... That's the rumor.. By the way JS give the guy a second chance.. I've been in his shoes before and have wished that she had given me a second chance.. I never got it .. alway's killed me though
Author JS17 Posted July 29, 2005 Author Posted July 29, 2005 he didn't really want a second chance, he just wanted tomorrow i make my transformation and become unbitter. i'm enjoying my last day.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 tomorrow i make my transformation and become unbitter. i'm enjoying my last day. Why I think your great bitter
country gal Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 the way i see it is .... if he dont want you, you're free to find some fun elsewhere ... so go play - starting tomorrow, of course ... unbitter.
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