Lucysherman Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 I met a new guy and had a great first date, the conversation was lively, the chemistry was present (and so was the kissing ). We went out on Friday, he texted me after saying he had a great time and asked me on another date that Monday. And now we have plans to meet again this coming Friday. We haven't talked since then, which I suppose is fine because there isn't much to talk about right now. But we met on an app, and I noticed he added a new picture to his profile after our making plans. Of course, we've only been on one date, and I'm still on the app too so it's not like I'm expecting monogamy or anything right now. But should I be worried about him flaking? Do you think he would still be interested? Thanks.
angel.eyes Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 I wouldn't be worried. You've listed all the reasons why you shouldn't be. Don't check a guy's profile after you've started dating. It creates all sorts of unnecessary anxiety, like this. Why torture yourself? 3
hippychick3 Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 Keep your options OPEN and date others so you're not fixated on this one guy. You've only had one date and should not be at all invested in him yet. Spruce up your own profile if you're not meeting enough other guys. 3
thecrucible Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 I'd say force yourself to keep your options open even if it's not something you'd normally be inclined to do. Those men will be doing exactly the same so there's no need to feel too much loyalty towards them. But obviously you stop if you get intimate enough with someone that it would feel unethical to be seeing more than one guy.
Author Lucysherman Posted October 11, 2016 Author Posted October 11, 2016 So we ended up going on the date. And it was great. We must have been out about 5 hours, and I ended up sleeping over. He had to get up early the next morning for a trip, when I offered to leave during the night he asked me to stay. He got up early for the trip and let me stay and sleep in. Then that afternoon, he texted asking if everything went ok and that he wanted to hang out again when he got back. Do you think he was saying that? Or did he mean it?
angel.eyes Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 Lucy, please reign in your insecurity before you self-sabotage! Why on earth would a guy ask you out again if he weren't interested in seeing you? 2
Miss Peach Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 Men will sometimes say what's easy or what you expect even if they don't mean it. But they usually won't back it up with actions. It sounds like he likes you or otherwise he would have probably let you go in the middle of the night - especially under those circumstances.
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