Dove34 Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 So... Do guys kind of have the same "Code" as girls do? For girls you don't ask a ex boyfriends friend out. It's just not cool. Do guys have the same "code"? The reason I'm asking, is I was seeing a guy off and on for a few months. It wasn't anything serious. I haven't really spoken to him in about 3-4 weeks, and now his friend has asked me out twice. But I just feel it's kind of shaddy. Thanks, Dove
Toodaloo Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 They do have a code but as it was very casual over a short period of time it would not apply with new guy asking you out.
VeveCakes Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 ok, same thing happened to me. Had a terrible break up after 5 month relationship...he just ghosted me. We talk a bit now and then since then (against my better judgement). Then his friend added me on SC and is always sending me pics and chatting me up. It's shady as hell. Its totally against the Bro Code.
Miss Peach Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 Most of the guys I've known in this situation have asked their friend. In one case the guy I had had just been friends for a long time (never dated) and his friend still asked our mutual friend if he was OK with it.
Toodaloo Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 ok, same thing happened to me. Had a terrible break up after 5 month relationship...he just ghosted me. We talk a bit now and then since then (against my better judgement). Then his friend added me on SC and is always sending me pics and chatting me up. It's shady as hell. Its totally against the Bro Code. That is a bit different to two months on and off/ every now again, which in reality adds up to probably 3 or 4 dates max... 5 month relationship gone bad is a strict no no for the bro...
VeveCakes Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 That is a bit different to two months on and off/ every now again, which in reality adds up to probably 3 or 4 dates max... 5 month relationship gone bad is a strict no no for the bro... Yeah I guess it depends on how close friends they are? 1
Author Dove34 Posted October 5, 2016 Author Posted October 5, 2016 They are friends but not best friends. The guy I was seeing is going through a divorce, so until that is settled I'm not doing anything serious with him, and when he reaches out we go out and enjoy each others company and went to the beach for a weekend not to long ago. I like him, but he's not ready for anything serious, until he gets his divorce finished. He reaches out from time to time, I guess checking to see if I'm still there and send messes like " when you go back to the beach, I want to go." and the occasional "miss you" I just thought it odd, that his friend asked me out. Not sure if he got the OK or not. And I don't want to ask the guy I was seeing, because I don't want to stir the pot and cause any un-necessary drama. Just curious.
SammySammy Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 SOME guys have a code. Other don't care. Will do anything and anybody.
Toodaloo Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 They are friends but not best friends. The guy I was seeing is going through a divorce, so until that is settled I'm not doing anything serious with him, and when he reaches out we go out and enjoy each others company and went to the beach for a weekend not to long ago. I like him, but he's not ready for anything serious, until he gets his divorce finished. He reaches out from time to time, I guess checking to see if I'm still there and send messes like " when you go back to the beach, I want to go." and the occasional "miss you" I just thought it odd, that his friend asked me out. Not sure if he got the OK or not. And I don't want to ask the guy I was seeing, because I don't want to stir the pot and cause any un-necessary drama. Just curious. Don't date either. Divorce guy is currently messed up and friend isn't such a great friend in this situation... Go with those "icky" feelings you had 1
Author Dove34 Posted October 5, 2016 Author Posted October 5, 2016 Thanks... I agree. That's why I haven't accepted the date offers from his friend. Just doesn't sit right and why I'm leaving the non-divorced one alone. Until he is divorced and is ready for a proper relationship, I'm not playing, too old for that. But was just curious.
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