Why would a woman make prolonged eye contact with a man?

[Fishfingersareyummy]

I walked into a retail outlet to purchase a new laptop and as I was walking I saw an old co-worker who I have seen from time to time since she left and we have made some small talk in the past.

 

Well we both stopped directly next to each other and held prolonged eye contact, it was surreal because it felt like we were just staring blankly at each other for ages and I literally just froze, I tried to say hi but I couldn't. I broke eye with her and looked down before looking up at her again and she was still staring at me, I became uncomfortable at this point as it felt too strange and made a bee line for it to the other side of the store and she walked out.

[Gloria25]

Dude, maybe she was trying to show interest and was waiting on you to make a move.

 

Next time smile and sieze the opportunity!!!

 

I myself kinda do the same thing. If I am interested in a guy I'll get shy and look away. Then, by the time I'm ready to make a move it's all awkward and often times I weird the guy out - don't be me...

 

Get comfortable in talking with people. Practice, practice, practice. Talk to a waiter, barista, cashier...the more you do it spontaneously you can learn to be ready on your feet to take advantage next time a girl is checking you out.

 

Yes, "checking out" is what women did back in the day when they weren't being fed all this poop about having to approach and ask out men. Women batted eyelashes, gave you a cute stare, and may even made small talk with a dude in hopes he liked her too and would man up and make a move.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I walked into a retail outlet to purchase a new laptop and as I was walking I saw an old co-worker who I have seen from time to time since she left and we have made some small talk in the past.

 

Well we both stopped directly next to each other and held prolonged eye contact, it was surreal because it felt like we were just staring blankly at each other for ages and I literally just froze, I tried to say hi but I couldn't. I broke eye with her and looked down before looking up at her again and she was still staring at me, I became uncomfortable at this point as it felt too strange and made a bee line for it to the other side of the store and she walked out.

 

Next time, give her a compliment about the way she presented herself to you,

Not how she looks, but the effort in dolling up and being seen in an attractive hue,

Then move along, but smile, because if she was even partly interested, you just made her day,

When you see her again, be sure to give another flirty chat, then immediately ask her out in your own way!

[OneLov]

Because she likes what she sees, or you have s*** on your face and she's wondering what it is. Lol. Jk.

 

Whatever she is looking at is aesthetically pleasing.

[katiegrl]

I walked into a retail outlet to purchase a new laptop and as I was walking I saw an old co-worker who I have seen from time to time since she left and we have made some small talk in the past.

 

Well we both stopped directly next to each other and held prolonged eye contact, it was surreal because it felt like we were just staring blankly at each other for ages and I literally just froze, I tried to say hi but I couldn't. I broke eye with her and looked down before looking up at her again and she was still staring at me, I became uncomfortable at this point as it felt too strange and made a bee line for it to the other side of the store and she walked out.

 

From a blog I read recently:

 

"Good strong eye contact is an emblematic trait of leaders and powerful men because it is an overt display of dominance. A man who is poor at holding it is seen by women as a fragile man who cannot handle her eyes nor handle her. This is certainly not an impression you want to give. Simply put, women get wet for dominance and for the rare men who display it.

 

Your eyes are your strongest weapon for getting a girl to stop and engage with you. Don’t be afraid to give her some intense eye ****ing. Intensity demonstrates passion, maybe even dangerous passion (a rare quality) that women are vulnerable to. A girl once told me that I ”shouldn’t look at her like that”. That night I was still looking at her ‘like that’ but naked in my bed."

 

JMO but she may have been **** testing you. Testing how strong (emotionally) you are.

 

By breaking eye contact first, becoming nervous and uncomfortable and making a bee line for the door, I think you may have blown it.

[Osmium13]

Maybe she's a psychotic, cannibalistic axe-murderer and was weighing up whether you'd be a tasty victim?

[elaine567]

Maybe she's a psychotic, cannibalistic axe-murderer and was weighing up whether you'd be a tasty victim?

I think you nailed it, that is exactly what she was thinking...

[Fishfingersareyummy]

I really don't think she was interested in me, but I do think that perhaps she didn't remember me but recognised my face. She approached me about seven months ago and said hi but I don't know. Maybe she forgot who I was.

 

If I missed my chance with her then I'll kick myself, she's a good woman, but oh well just another missed opportunity...

[Mr. Lucky]

She approached me about seven months ago and said hi but I don't know.

 

So she approached you once on her own and, on the second encounter, stood and made extended eye contact with you.

 

My friend, are you waiting for a singing telegram ???

 

Much to be gained and little risk in going up to her and saying "hi"...

 

Mr. Lucky

[katiegrl]

 

My friend, are you waiting for a singing telegram ???

 

 

LOL, thanks for the chuckle Mr. Lucky.

[angel.eyes]

Sometimes I stare because someone looks familiar, but I'm not sure if I know him or her. I'm trying to place how or where or why I might know the person.

 

Why didn't you break the ice and say hi? You wasted a perfectly good stare!

[Fishfingersareyummy]

So she approached you once on her own and, on the second encounter, stood and made extended eye contact with you.

 

My friend, are you waiting for a singing telegram ???

 

Much to be gained and little risk in going up to her and saying "hi"...

 

Mr. Lucky

 

Haha. Unless a woman tells me she likes me then I just assume she is being friendly and don't read too much into things.

 

Sometimes I stare because someone looks familiar, but I'm not sure if I know him or her. I'm trying to place how or where or why I might know the person.

 

Why didn't you break the ice and say hi? You wasted a perfectly good stare!

 

I thought she had trouble recognizing me but I don't believe she did and I know I wasted it, I just **** my pants and panicked. She's such a beautiful woman and her stare was intense, it was like she was looking through my soul. I simply just froze, I wanted to say hi but I couldn't speak.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Why would a woman make prolonged eye contact with a man?

 

Because he is wearing the full uniform from Captain Hook Fish & Chips

[GemmaUK]

I suspect she was wondering why you didn't say hello but just kept staring.

You had the surreal experience and you say she is hot etc.

She might have just felt confused and wondering why you didn't say hello.

Has she contacted you on FB or anywhere for a chat or a date?

 

I'm confused as to why you would even question a look tbh - it came to nothing so..?

[Fishfingersareyummy]

I suspect she was wondering why you didn't say hello but just kept staring.

You had the surreal experience and you say she is hot etc.

She might have just felt confused and wondering why you didn't say hello.

Has she contacted you on FB or anywhere for a chat or a date?

 

I'm confused as to why you would even question a look tbh - it came to nothing so..?

 

I don't have social media and I don't socialize with her. She's just a co-worker that I worked with six years ago. She left back in 2010 but occasionally we have bumped into each other and have just said "Hi, how are you?" before continuing about our day.

 

I asked because when someone stops and stares at you, it's weird, so I was curious as to why this happened.

 

You seem to be getting the impression that I am looking for signs of interest which is not the case at all.

[GemmaUK]

Sorry OP, this made me think you might be interested in her is all.

 

I thought she had trouble recognizing me but I don't believe she did and I know I wasted it, I just **** my pants and panicked. She's such a beautiful woman and her stare was intense, it was like she was looking through my soul. I simply just froze, I wanted to say hi but I couldn't speak.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

Sorry OP, this made me think you might be interested in her is all.

 

You're talking about a post I made three weeks ago. Also why are you dragging up an old topic that had disappeared down the forum?

[Popsicle]

She's interested.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

She's interested.

 

If that's true, I'd be very flattered and not to mention very surprised.

[Haydn]

Maybe, she was well impressed with the choice of Laptop?

[Fishfingersareyummy]

Maybe, she was well impressed with the choice of Laptop?

 

Haha I hadn't purchased the laptop at that point. I'm usually a HP man though.

[Haydn]

Haha I hadn't purchased the laptop at that point. I'm usually a HP man though.

 

 

I always plumped for Acer. Obviously not connected to the thread but vital.

 

Why not ask her directly if you get the chance?

[Fishfingersareyummy]

Why not ask her directly if you get the chance?

 

I found the incident embarrassing if I am honest and don't want to bring it up again. I'll just pretend it never happened and make sure if I do see her again and she seems open to talking that I speak to her instead of staring into her eyes like a deer caught in the headlights.

[Haydn]

Yes, speak to her.

 

You never know.

[PrettyEmily77]

Maybe she forgot to wear her contact lenses and couldn't see a thing?