Parisian Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Hello loveshack community, In short ex broke up with me 7 months back. Things werent ok between us, she was emotionally abusive for as far as i remember and out of the blue she said one day "Tonight I will go do something I haven't ever done" then goes out with another guy that evening and texts me where she was & what she was doing with him. I get furious and send some nasty messages and in reply i recieve a text from her mom threatening me not to contact her daughter again. Turns out she was cheating on me for a few months. I even thought and believed she had BPD or some psychopathy if you see my earlier posts. 7 months of NC go by and i had to seek a psychiatrists help to overcome (which i am still struggling with) the damage she did to me for 5 years. Yesterday I recieved a video on whatsapp (i had deleted her contact so till i didn't open, didn't knew it was her). The video contained the last part of her PhD defense which she defended last Friday followed by some guy hugging her (unclear if it was a jury member or her bf. Given her history of hurting me whenever i didn't give in to her whims and demands, i am not surprised that she may have done this to make me jealous. Anyways, having already opened and "seen" the message on whatsapp, I replied to her wishing her for her Phd & the best for her future. She replied back but i didnt read but rather just deleted the conv. Whats up with her really. Why is she out there to hurt me. The way she behaved with me for 5 years, manipulation, control tactics, the way of breaking up and now after 7 months, when i think I am over her, this. Why did she even hold on to my contact number? Frankly i don't give a damn but I don't understand how even after 7 months and being with her current bf after having cheated on me, she still wants to make me miserable. She has no empathy.
HumanMachine Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Change your number and be done with it - she'll keep coming back. 2
fromheart Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 I'll answer your questions for you, keeping it straight and simple. She is mad. Continue to move on as you have done. Bullet dodged.
Author Parisian Posted October 5, 2016 Author Posted October 5, 2016 I'll answer your questions for you, keeping it straight and simple. She is mad. Continue to move on as you have done. Bullet dodged. Thanks for the replies. Yeah as days go by I realise how she was just incapable of loving others let alone loving herself. I was just attempting every time like a hamster in a wheel to bring out the best in her. Yeah she did a great service to me by sending me the video. By convincing me again what kind of a b**** she is and how fortunate I am to have not been married to her which I was very close to a year back.
aloneinaz Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 Change your number and be done with it - she'll keep coming back. OMG, CHANGE your phone number so you'll never have to hear from that woman again.. 1
Frozensushi Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 OMG, CHANGE your phone number so you'll never have to hear from that woman again.. I changed mine. It really helped me a lot moving forward. Also, my new number is the easiest to remember. Win Win!! 1
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