Jordvn Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 This girl I've been talking to wants to go out. I've just started this new job & I'm waiting for them to give me my new schedule to see what days I'm free. I work up to 16 hours a day so I would be exhausted by the end of the night to go out on a date. I told her I would let her know, & she seemed disappointed. I hate to leave her hanging like this. My job sucks at letting me know what my schedule is because they're so busy. Should I just toughen up & go on a first date after work?
JewelD Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Just tell her the truth and wait to see what your new schedule looks like. 5
Erik30 Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 (edited) She's disappointed because people often use being "too busy" as a lame excuse when they're not really interested, so that might be what's she's thinking. If you really like her, I would just try to meet her after work before she moves on. You can explain the situation so she'll know why you look tired on your date if you do. Or if there's no way you can make it, be honest and say you'll arrange the date when your schedule clears up Edited October 4, 2016 by Erik30 2
LookAtThisPOst Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 This girl I've been talking to wants to go out. I've just started this new job & I'm waiting for them to give me my new schedule to see what days I'm free. I work up to 16 hours a day so I would be exhausted by the end of the night to go out on a date. I told her I would let her know, & she seemed disappointed. I hate to leave her hanging like this. My job sucks at letting me know what my schedule is because they're so busy. Should I just toughen up & go on a first date after work? Your first mistake was taking a job that made you work 16 hrs a day. 4
Arkisha Green Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Of course you should if you really like her. It would seem to her that you are only making excuses not to go on a date with her. To succeed at online dating, you have to know her love language and that is having quality time with her. Good luck!
2005tahoe Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Honestly, if you cant make time for her, someone else will. If it was someone that I was really into, no excuse would stop me from seeing them. I don't buy the "I'm busy" excuse, it has be abused.
smackie9 Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 If you can't find time to have a first date then why would you think you will have time to maintain a relationship? Find a job that lets you have a life. 1
Author Jordvn Posted October 4, 2016 Author Posted October 4, 2016 Well looks like I'm out of the job now, I requested to have weekends off, now they won't get back at me. Anyways I texted her 3 hours ago but haven't got a response. Should I text again? It was a green text btw, we both have iPhones, maybe she didn't see it?
Gloria25 Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Look, IMO, putting food on the table is more priority than tail. Yes, it's hard for someone to wonder if you're using the o'l "busy" excuse to keep them on the back burner...but, if you're working hard and/or studying then yea, sometimes dating wilm have to take a backburner. That's life. Now, if you wanna be in a particular profession that puts strains on relationships due to hours, deployments, traveling, etc (ie police, military, law, medicine), then in the long run maybe you gotta date some women who can handle that (usually a strong and independent woman) or reconsider your quality of life over a paycheck. ***sigh*** I am a strong and independent woman myself, but when you're first dating someone, it's hard to wonder if he's using thr "busy" excuse on you. My 26yr old guy? I lit him on fire cuz upon him finishing the bar exam I thought we'd have more time together...but he was like making plans to do stuff othet than be with me. I do believe that work and school has been keeping him busy and he's got a lot of stressors going on with this transitional period in his life, but I still suspect that there's other women in the picture. So, I don't know...if you haven't done anything to make her suspicious of your busy schedule, then it's on her if she can't understand. Again, maybe you should put off dating till you are more stable. :/ 2
JewelD Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Well looks like I'm out of the job now, I requested to have weekends off, now they won't get back at me. Anyways I texted her 3 hours ago but haven't got a response. Should I text again? It was a green text btw, we both have iPhones, maybe she didn't see it? Why would you request weekends off if you just started working there? Priorities. Sort them out. You'll have a rough time getting a date if you can't afford to pay for it. With that said, you sent her a text so just wait it out. Probably would have been better to call but it's done now. 2
kendahke Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Well looks like I'm out of the job now, I requested to have weekends off, now they won't get back at me. You mean they fired you? Wow, that was fast, but then again asking for weekends off when the ink isn't dry on your "new hire" HR papers wasn't a good move.
mortensorchid Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 Your job situation aside, I have a question for you: Do you like her AT ALL? If two people want to see each other, they make the time to see each other. Fact. If one is not that into the other, one lets them know it by not wanting to see the other person or always has a reason or excuse as to how/why it can't happen. Don't be this guy, make the time and see her. If a man keeps canceling because of work or some other lame excuse (ex. I want to watch a game on TV - which has happened), I say "Okay" and I never talk to the man again because he's too concerned with himself rather than me (or any other woman). It's not about being self centered or a princess, it's a fact. 1
BaileyB Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 If you can't find time to have a first date then why would you think you will have time to maintain a relationship? Find a job that lets you have a life. This. Exactly.
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