AMJ Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 ye no we dident first time, But ill try to remind myself aftwards or get her birth controle She doesnt really have an opinion, But i dont want her to waste her life cause we both horny and she gets pregnent As much as highschool teachs you Donno we sorta have but not really, its more of we are madly in love and emotions move and sometimes things just happen Oh good god. If this isn't a reason for North Carolina to change their age of consent laws.... I honestly feel sick after reading this. 5
xxoo Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 no no we dident first time, But will for sure afterwards She doesnt really have an opinion, But i dont want her to waste her life cause we both horny and she gets pregnent As much as highschool teachs you Donno we sorta have but not really, its more of we are madly in love and emotions move and sometimes things just happen Emotions are not an excuse. I met my husband when I was 17 and he was 19. We were hot and heavy, but didn't have intercouse for the first 6 months. He insisted that I be ready, we use condoms, and that I was 18 before that step. You are the adult here. If you care for her, show it. Insist on education and protection. 2
AMJ Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 There wasn't really internet when I was 16, but a guy who was friends with my best friends' brother really liked me, he was 22. He came to a high school football game, sat next to me, and asked me who I was going to Homecoming with. No one had asked me yet, so he did. My parents flipped the F out when I told them I was going to Homecoming with a 22 year old man. But there wasn't much they could do about it. So they met him and they actually liked him. However the dance was a disaster. We went to dinner with a big group of friends- because that's what teenagers do. And all my friends wanted him to buy alcohol for the after party. I was a little embarrassed. And so was he. We got to the dance, and he didn't want to dance. He realized- oh my god, I'm 22 and I'm in a high school gymnasium. So he sat outside and didn't talk to me all night. He didn't want to go to the afterparty with my friends. So we dropped him off at his car, I threw his corsage out the window, and went out with my friends. Maybe your girl is not into typical teenage things but she IS still a little girl.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 (the following re: thoughts on unplanned pregnancy ) ye But i dont want her to waste her life cause we both horny and she gets pregnent OK, now, even I am starting to be concerned. Pregnancy/motherhood... the wasted life... That after I was trying to follow the whole story through in detail, to better understand how the two came to this point. There is so much emotion involved that it overwhelms any thoughts of logic, so that makes it double tough to get this one right. I suspect that this sexual activity will soon heighten any and all friction between abusive mother, and daughter, and that mom "can't do anything (legally) about it" will (probably inspire mom toward more abuse in other ways/areas)
FTM042014 Posted October 5, 2016 Posted October 5, 2016 There are so many red flags here. I understand how/why a 16 year old would think it's cool and fun to date a 22 year old. But vice versa baffles me. 1
Author throwawayaccount69 Posted October 6, 2016 Author Posted October 6, 2016 (edited) her mom found out :/ There is so much emotions going on..I just i love this girl, She loves me...I know most of you either told me im an idiot, Her mind will change eventually, She doesnt know what she wants,shes vulnerable I love this girl so much, You guys have no idea...To me its about her and not what she has, how old she is, Where shes from...I love her for her...I will do as much as i can to be a grown man about this..but im sorry i love her and im going to go through with this Edited October 6, 2016 by throwawayaccount69
JewelD Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 her mom found out :/ There is so much emotions going on..I just i love this girl, She loves me...I know most of you either told me im an idiot, Her mind will change eventually, She doesnt know what she wants,shes vulnerable I love this girl so much, You guys have no idea...To me its about her and not what she has, how old she is, Where shes from...I love her for her...I will do as much as i can to be a grown man about this..but im sorry i love her and im going to go through with this She's vulnerable and she doesn't know what she wants and yet you think that means she loves you. No, it means you're a pervert and a predator. Thank God her mother has found out. Hopefully she can put a stop to this since I highly doubt you're prepared to become a parent to this girl and clothe, feed and shelter her.
xxoo Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 her mom found out :/ There is so much emotions going on..I just i love this girl, She loves me...I know most of you either told me im an idiot, Her mind will change eventually, She doesnt know what she wants,shes vulnerable I love this girl so much, You guys have no idea...To me its about her and not what she has, how old she is, Where shes from...I love her for her...I will do as much as i can to be a grown man about this..but im sorry i love her and im going to go through with this If you loved her, you would protect her. You would encourage her to do what is in her best interest. You would never have unprotected sex with her. You love the way she makes you feel. Her mom found out already? I wonder if this was all her way of rebelling, seeking attention from her mother. She's just a kid.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 It's a good thing her mom found out. In addition to the sketchy morality of your age gap, you are probably going to avoid a lot of pain in the long-run by this ending now. I can virtually promise you that the boyfriend she has at 16 will not be the same one she has in her 20s. She's too young for the kind of relationship you are looking for and sooner or later she probably would have found someone else. Sorry, but it's the truth.
Author throwawayaccount69 Posted October 7, 2016 Author Posted October 7, 2016 So i met her mom ...she actually likes me...tottaly dident expect this Looks like its a go on all fronts...She doesnt know i took her daughters virginity tho lmao
LD1990 Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 22 and 16? I'm usually not one to be critical about age differences, but that's just weird. You're old enough to hit the bars and this girl can barely drive. Regardless of the age of consent, she's not an adult. If you're looking for a short-term fling, you should find someone who isn't a child. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, you've chosen just about the worst possible option.
ChickiePops Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 Nope and shes adopted ..her adopted parents will kick her out day she turns 18 Wait...what?
joseb Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 22 and 16? I'm usually not one to be critical about age differences, but that's just weird. You're old enough to hit the bars and this girl can barely drive. . Well in fairness the US is a bit of an anomaly in that. Most countries the age for both are within a year. Im usually one to defend age gaps, but in this case the OP s flipping between declaring undying love and bragging about taking the mom's girls virginity...somethings not right.... 1
AMJ Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 Well in fairness the US is a bit of an anomaly in that. Most countries the age for both are within a year. Im usually one to defend age gaps, but in this case the OP s flipping between declaring undying love and bragging about taking the mom's girls virginity...somethings not right.... Drinking and driving aside, because I did both at 16 and I don't think either of those are an indicator of maturity, she's a child! And there is something super odd about all of this. OP you are not in love with her. You're thinking with your little head :/ 1
PogoStick Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 He's not a pervert or predator. He's just a sad man who's excited that a young cute girl is into him. Please just go back to what I said in the beginning. Just no kids or marriage for 10 years. OK? That means she goes on the pill ASAP and you, as the man, will pay for it. Unless she is lucky enough to have health insurance, in which case, she can likely get it easy and without the parents ever being notified. Go to Planned Parenthood PLEASE! 1
ASG Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 When I was 17 I started dating a 23 year old guy that soon turned 24. Age of consent in my country is 14. We dated for over 2 years and our relationship was good for the most part. We ended up drifting because what got us together wasn't necessarily love as a dislike for the same people. My parents knew about him and approved. I never *told* them we were having sex, but it was a given. My mom had put me on the pill YEARS before. It was not a big deal, the relationship was as healthy as can be, just not meant to be, as it turned out. So yeah. It can work. Maybe. Who knows? 1
Author throwawayaccount69 Posted October 9, 2016 Author Posted October 9, 2016 He's not a pervert or predator. He's just a sad man who's excited that a young cute girl is into him. Please just go back to what I said in the beginning. Just no kids or marriage for 10 years. OK? That means she goes on the pill ASAP and you, as the man, will pay for it. Unless she is lucky enough to have health insurance, in which case, she can likely get it easy and without the parents ever being notified. Go to Planned Parenthood PLEASE! I can promise you the pill will be gurenteed 1
mortensorchid Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 You know within yourself that this is not right to do. I have bfs who are younger than me now (I'm 41 today). One of them I will use as an example who is 6 years younger than me. Now remember today I am 41 and he's 35, nothing to write home about, but once upon a time when he was 16 I was 22. I did not know him at the time, and the gender roles are reversed, but remember that if it had happened at that time, I would have been the evil and he would have been the innocent. People would have looked at me like I was a pervert - I stole a boy not a man. In your situation? If you like this girl and you are going to pursue an actual relationship with her, then proceed with these cautions: 1) 16 - She is 16. She is going to go through a lot of changes even though she doesn't think she will at this point. She's going to blossom and bloom and then she's going to discover all the things we do in our early twenties which you may be doing at this time. And it will change her. She or you may move on from each other before you know it. 2) Parents - At least one parent needs to be in the know about this. Do you want to end up in jail over this if you are, in fact, having sex? You must let at least one parent know that there is some kind of relationship between you two so that you will be in the clear. 3) The future - Too soon to say what it will or will not be, but remember that we have to consider it.
Author throwawayaccount69 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 Does her mother know how old you are? she knows how old i am 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 she knows how old i am I still advise you to proceed with extreme caution, even if this has her mom's stamp of approval. She is a long way off from being ready to settle down and commit. I was once a 16-year-old girl too, and we are a hormonal and fickle bunch. We tend to change boyfriends frequently and don't have the benefit of emotional maturity on our side. Don't get too attached, and remember - she is only 16. She will change a lot within the next few years.
Omei Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 So i met her mom ...she actually likes me...tottaly dident expect this Looks like its a go on all fronts...She doesnt know i took her daughters virginity tho lmao Good lord this poor girl is gonna ruin her life to this man child.
preraph Posted October 16, 2016 Posted October 16, 2016 Nope and shes adopted ..her adopted parents will kick her out day she turns 18 That probably will never happen. That is her immature mind fearing the worst. She's too young for you. Leave her alone, for crying out loud. This can lead to nowhere good and will only end up getting you both in trouble. 1
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