sophitia Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 I apologize if this is the wrong place to post this but I wasn't sure where this needed to go. Also, sorry for the long read in advanced!! My ex and I broke up over a couple of years ago on bad terms. I removed any association to him like most people would. Anyway, last year I was browsing through Facebook and I saw that my ex posted a message/picture of the dog that we used to share together highlighting that she has passed away. I thought that was really strange that I could see this since I unfriended him long ago and sure enough, we were not friends and everything was private except this one post. Of course mutual friends liking/commenting forced it on my newsfeed. Was this intentional for me to see? I never reached out after seeing it. Flash forward to present day. I flew back to my hometown to visit my family and decided to go out with some friends one night. I hadn't seen anyone in a couple of years since I moved but I was standing around outside of a concert venue in the middle of two flights of stairs, watching my friend as he was trying to get some tickets. Next thing you know, this random guy walks SUPER close past me like we could tap shoulders if I had just leaned in a bit. I take a glance and boom, it's my ex but he acted like he didn't see me? He definitely looks exactly the same and I don't think I've changed over the years either. Plus, there was also no reason for anyone to walk that close to me when there was plenty of area to go up the stairs from the outside. I've also known the guy for over 10 years before the break up and I assume that when you have been in a serious relationship with someone, they would be hard to forget. I told my brother about it and he shares with me that he ran into my ex a few months prior. My brother was just minding his own business and my ex actually ran up to him to say hi. Again, I thought it was weird considering my siblings don't really care for him since he he cheated on me and moved on with that girl when I broke up with him. Coincidentally, he became single after that encounter with my brother which I had heard through the grapevine. Then back to reality. During my flight I decide to go on Instagram. I noticed my ex commenting on my friends picture trying to meet up with them which was super weird since they don't hang out at all. Curiosity got the best of me and I decide to look at his. I see on his page that he has pictures of events we were at together, pictures I took of the dog we shared and the same post that was also on his Facebook a year ago. It's possible all of this means nothing since we weren't actually in those pictures, but at the same time, I know I deleted any remnants of our relationship like it didn't exist. I'm not sure if he ended up finding out my Instagram because I don't comment much on social media but I did recently on a mutual friend. A few days later, I noticed he finally deleted all of those pictures that had anything to do with that dog or our relationship and then put his social media on private. Thoughts?
GemmaUK Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 Mostly it sounds like you've been watching him a lot on social media.
GunslingerRoland Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 People don't usually try to obliterate the whole period of their life where they were with someone they broke up with. I wouldn't read much into the fact he didn't take down those pictures. You are the one who is stalking his social media, are you trying to send him a message? 1
preraph Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 I agree with the above posters. Though I have to say if I shared a dog with someone and they loved it too, I probably would let them know when it passed. BUT if that was the case, he had the perfect excuse to call you and didn't do it.
Author sophitia Posted October 3, 2016 Author Posted October 3, 2016 (edited) Of course I've been looking a lot since the encounter of seeing him. Not even going to lie about that. Prior to this trip, I knew nothing about him other than my dog died from Facebook last year. I don't have a reason to send him a message, but my curiosity is strong after seeing him and his comment on my friend's page to meet up. I don't really like the idea that he would try to hang out with my friend out of nowhere especially when he said he didn't really like this person in the past. Yes, I'm probably crazy for reading into this but I just know from our past relationship together, he used to purposely try and test me (he has admitted to this). There was even an instance where him and his new girlfriend, took a mutual's friend phone, made a snapchat story, and sent it directly to me. I never react and reach out when these things happen, but it definitely makes me overthink to myself like crazy. Which is why I go on this forum to vent and figure out. Edited October 3, 2016 by sophitia
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